Staying Grounded and Centered.

I wrote this in March of 2006 for my very good friend and fellow psychic brother, Sean David Morton. He published it in an issue of his Delphi Associates Newsletter shortly afterward.

Considering the current state of affairs in this time frame of our world and evolution, I felt that it was necessary to give out the information below to as many people as possible so that there can be more of us who will be able to help others and respond to the growing darkness. Through the techniques I will impart, we can become a beacon of light and strength for those caught up in the tides of disaster. This is a guide to becoming and staying grounded, no matter what is happening around you. I will cover the reasons why staying grounded is necessary, how it works and the techniques involved.

Our human mechanism is both highly complicated and at the same time rather simplistic. One of the things that we have carried throughout our evolution is the “fight or flight” response. This is a very simple program that we use as a protection from everything fearful. One of the things that I have discovered through my training and while working with healing clients about this pattern is how the body responds. The “fight response” actually causes us to “stand our ground” while the “flight response” causes the exact opposite reaction. Not only do we attempt to flee the situation, but inside of ourselves, our “soul” begins to detach from our physical body. Whenever we are threatened, either physically or emotionally, our bodies’ primordial response is to presume that we are “dying”. With that response, our “soul” starts to detach further from our bodies even more than it already is. As the “soul” detaches, our bodies are further convinced that it is dying, and a vicious cycle is started.

Becoming and staying grounded prevents this response from moving us off our center. When you’re grounded, you’re calm, present and watchful. Data about any situation comes in more rapidly and is assessed at a much faster rate. Fear is greatly lessened and we become more deliberate in our actions. A grounded individual does not panic.

Look at any situation where there has been a traumatic experience taking place. There are always some people who make the right decisions and perform actions that are generally termed “heroic”. They are grounded and centered. Their “fight response” has kicked into high gear and they are totally in their bodies. Then there are those who practically jump out of their skin whenever anything unexpected happens. Those people are not anywhere near their bodies.

As a psychic healer, one of the first things I look at when working on a client is how far away they are from their body at a “soul” level, and how far out their auric field is. The further away their souls are from their physical bodies, the more prone they are to panic attacks, anxiety, excessive worry, fear, and a host of other complaints. The reason for this is simple. They are not in the “driver seat” and have little or no control over what is happening to them. By becoming grounded, you regain that control and the decision making process that goes along with it. You no longer have the background thought of “I’m dying!!” coming from your body, so your mind takes over and deals with the situation the best that it can.

So, how does this very simple act work? Basically speaking, it “ties” you to the earth. This brings your “soul” back into the your body where it belongs, and centers your feelings, mind and emotions. You become as a rock on all levels and you are unmovable unless you choose to do so. By way of an example, I’ll tell you about the time I demonstrated this for my good friend Sean David Morton and several other psychics while he and I worked on the psychic phone lines back in 1991. I was explaining to some of the people about how grounding makes you unmovable unless you want and choose to move and a few of them were skeptical, so I felt a display was in order. I sat on a chair and had the four largest guys stand all around me with their hands under the chair, and asked them to pick me up while I was grounded. They could barely lift the chair higher than a few inches. I then had them relax and I removed my grounding cord (without telling them I had done so) and had them try again. They practically threw me into the ceiling. I then explained that for the second attempt, I had un-grounded myself, and could they all now see the difference between being securely grounded to the earth and not grounded. They all agreed that being grounded was the better choice and had me teach them the same techniques I’m about to show you.

Ok, so now I’m sure some of you are saying, “Well, this sounds like it’s a great thing, but it must be hard to master”. Nothing could be further from the truth as grounding is not only easy; it is a very natural thing to do. Remember, when we go into “fight response” we are not just grounding ourselves, we are increasing and strengthening our grounding by several factors. So it is a completely natural state for us to be in, but due to the stresses and pressures of our society and lack of training in these areas, we’ve forgotten that we can do this and just how easy it is.

The first thing that you need to do is to become aware of your first chakra, also known as the root chakra. This is generally located just above the base of your tailbone. The first chakra houses all of our survival information. In your minds eye, see this chakra and sense it with your feelings. Now, create a cord or line of energy. The cord can be whatever you want it to look like. A rope, a waterfall, a pipe; you get the idea. It can also have any color you wish to give it. See this grounding cord as strong and unbreakable. Now see it securely attached to your first chakra. It doesn’t matter what symbol you use for your cord, and it doesn’t matter if you see it strongly or not at first. All that matters is your decision that it’s there.

Now that your grounding cord is firmly affixed to your root chakra, have it extend all the way down to the center of the earth. Again, the center of the earth can be whatever you wish it to look like. A ball of energy, a beautiful garden, molten rock; whatever is comfortable, symbolic and pleasing to you. Attach the other end of your grounding cord to the center of the earth. Congratulations, you are now grounded. See how easy that is? Some people report that they immediately feel the difference and can tell that they are grounded and in their bodies. Don’t worry if you are not one of them as it makes little difference if you can actually feel it or not at first, as it is working the moment you do this.

Along with grounding your body, this also grounds your body’s energy field as well. The second part of this technique, is to now ground your aura. Most people’s auric field is so far away from their bodies that it practically goes down the block! This is quite typical, so there is no need for alarm. We tend to push our auras out to try and “protect” ourselves on an energy level. That said however, it is very impractical for our auras to be that far out. Let me explain. Even though our auras are an energy field, they have mass. As with anything that has mass, the farther out you stretch it, the thinner it gets. In the case of the aura, the thinner it gets, the easier it is for other energies to pass through it. The closer it is around your body, the stronger it is and it becomes less likely for outside energies to pass through it. Ever notice how tired you get just from walking from one end of the mall to the other? It’s not because it’s such a long walk. It’s because your aura was too far out and other people’s energy got mixed up with yours. Even though we are all human and have similar energy as humans, our energy is unique and individual to each of us just like a thumbprint, so we can really only use our own energy in and around our bodies.

Bringing in your aura is just as easy as grounding. First, be aware of how far out your aura is and then “tell it” to come in closer around you. I can already see the confused looks as you are reading this. “Tell my aura to come in closer??” Come now, you’ve just created a “grounding cord” with your imagination and visualization, so now simply do the same with your aura. It is yours, after all and you really do have full control of your own energy. A good distance is between 20 to 30 inches away from you at the most. Make sure that your aura is at that distance above you, below you, in front of you, behind you and to either side of you.

Most people have a tendency to forget about what’s behind them and below them, so pay extra attention to those areas. Once you’ve brought your aura in nice and tight, see your grounding cord strengthening and widening at your first chakra till it reaches the outside edge of your aura and then have it ground every layer of your aura (of which there are seven, in my teachings) to the center of the earth. Right about now is when I “set” my grounding cord on “release”. What this means is that I visualize myself as now allowing myself to release and let go of whatever I want to remove from my space, my energy and my life, down the grounding cord to the center of the earth where it is transmuted into neutral energy. So you can say something like “I now set my grounding on release. I am now releasing and letting go of all negativity, fear and doubt.” Use your own words to release whatever you want to let go of.

Ok, so now your body is grounded, your aura is in close and grounded so you’re maintaining your energy and keeping it clean; your grounding is set on release so all of the garbage is going away, but there’s one more thing to do to complete the picture. Now we have to make sure that we are in the “driver seat” and in complete control. To do this is again quite simple. Take the first finger of either hand and place it just below the center of your forehead, just above your eyebrows. This is the “third eye” or sixth chakra point. With your other hand, place the first finger at the base of your skull where you’ll feel that bump is. It’s right at the place where the top of your neck meets the bottom of your skull. Keeping both fingers in place, close your eyes and imagine a line of energy drawn between your fingers. Got it? Ok, now place a finger at each temple on the sides of your head and draw another line. Do you see in your minds eye where these two lines intersect? That is the center of your head. This is a sacred space. It is your sacred space and no one else is allowed in there. In this space, create a room for yourself. Decorate it as you will, there is no right or wrong way to do this. I would suggest to you put in a favorite chair, as this is thedrivers seat“. Now in your minds eye, see yourself in that space. If there is anything, or anybody in there that shouldn’t be, then toss them, or it, down your grounding cord.

Now, NOW you are grounded and centered. Now you are coming from a place of power and ability. Now you are in control of you and cannot be moved unless you choose to do so. From this space, all things are truly possible as you are able to look at them clearly and cleanly with zero interference. You’ll need to remind yourself to do this several times a day until it becomes a habit at first, but believe me, it really is easy and once you get into it, you will feel the difference between when you’re grounded and when you’re not. Another thing to remember is to really strengthen your grounding cord before you go into any known stressful situation, such as a meeting with someone not very pleasant, etc. Check your cord as often as you can remember and if it starts to look or feel a little ragged, that’s ok. Simply detach that one from your first chakra, let it fall to the center of the earth and create another one.

As more people learn of these techniques and use them not only will we be helping ourselves, but the planet and each other as well. Negative emotions and energy have no place to hold onto when we are grounded and centered. On the other hand, positive emotions and energy have a place to flourish and grow that is safe and secure.

May you all find the peace of mind, body and spirit that this practice can give you.

Brightest Blessings! Ross “Tolemac” Cotton – © March, 2006

Be sure to read my Advanced Grounding and Advanced Grounding 2 for more techniques.

  • I am truly impressed! Your clarity is exceptional.

  • Thank you for your kind words, Susan.

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  • Hi Tolemac, this is fantastic, I have just put the links up on my blog for my readers. I was amazed to learn so much about grounding! Very important stuff. I will twitter it again tomorrow. Thanks.

    Kim Gould’s last blog post..Grounding Tools

  • Hello Kim! Thank you for posting the links and for your comments. Both are greatly appreciated. =)

  • What a wonderful post! I have been working on a spiritual blog and have had the same thoughts! It can be so difficult to remain grounded and at peace in times of crisis. Your message will hopefully touch many. Be blessed!

    Kym Ali Pichon’s last blog post..Growing Up Ornament

  • Thank you Kym, for stopping by and your words of encouragement. Bright Blessings to you!

  • years ago i used to do a similar thing as this only it was much more “extreme”, a kind of “super”-grounding. Just before sleep, so that i should not roll around to the wrong side of the bed, nor any other untoward areas, i used to think “anchor” and with this thought I could feel many, many cables of energy literally anchoring the body to the spot…allowing me to spirit-roam during some of my “off” or sleep hours and be certain that the body were still anchored where i left it anchored.
    Several times associates and husbands (there have been 4 husbands)had complained that they literally could not budge a single finger of my body’s once I were asleep. The last 10 years i quit over-grounding with “anchor” and just assigned several angels to be in charge of the body when i wanted to go off through the universe a-roaming and contacting other-dimensional friends.

  • Hi Susie Lee! Thanks for coming to my site and sharing that great story about “anchoring”. Indeed, if you use what I call an “industrial strength” grounding cord, you’ll get the same effect. Hope all is well with you in FLA.

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  • erin_campbell

    Thank you! this is what I need…. 🙂

  • You are very welcome Erin. Please let me know if you have any questions about this technique.

    Deep Peace,

    Ross – “Tolemac”

  • Ziz

    This is great, Tolemac!
    Was turned onto this technique by Jason! and it really helped. I will be back! Ziz

  • Hi Ziz! I'm glad you like it and found it helpful. =)

    Bright Blessings,

    Ross – “Tolemac”

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  • A great article, just in time to give the people some valuable information about the crisis we are dealing with

  • A great article, just in time to give the people some valuable information about the crisis we are dealing with

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  • Tijntje-coll

    i just want to thank you forgiving me this oppertunity to learn something else that i didn’t know that was out there. i hope to make a change in my life for the better. i hope that my son will learn also fom this as well other young men and women. thanks again. God Bless

  • ellen jane aborde

    negative emotions can bring negative response to our life and letting negative aura and negative things to happen that can lead us to a place of nowhere


    this is literaly the mayan religion

  • I just want to say I use this technique often since first discovering Ross’s link for it through the PI community. It helps me so much at work when I look at the clock and realize I’ve been at work for the whole morning and haven’t truly been focused on any of the work I’ve been doing. At first imagining myself attaching a cord that ran all the way to the center of the earth was difficult for me, at least to spatially work out in my mind’s eye. Even though we know we’re all on a big round ball (the planet), it’s hard to imagine when all the land around you seems like a flat line.

    So, I picked up a cheap yoga ball to sit on in lieu of my desk chair (for other reasons) and discovered the first time after that that I tried to ground, it was far easier for me to make that mental connection of being on the outside of the planet connecting to the center of a planet sphere by first thinking about that yoga ball I was sitting on (a smaller sphere). Obviously, I was sitting centered on the ball (or else I’d have lost balance and fallen over), so it was very easy to visualize my grounding cord beginning at my bottom chakra and extending down through the exact center of the yoga ball to the floor. Once that visual was easily established in my mind, the idea of the cord continuing to extend down into the center of the larger sphere (Planet Earth) was far easier to imagine and my grounding experience was so much better from that point on, every time I do it now, I connect more easily and freely to the center of the earth and am able to move to the next step in the process much more quickly and effectively than I used to be.

    Just thought I’d share that idea in case anyone else is having the same problem visualizing that centered connection. I’m not saying you have to go buy a yoga ball to sit on to do it, but maybe just that idea of the visualization will help others.

    Thank you, Tolemac, for always providing such useful information and techniques. I’m a huge fan of yours. 🙂

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  • Barbara

    I really like this article. To be honest I don’t even know how I found it. This is my first time to this website. I have been studying so many different things about metaphysics and nothing seems to stick for some reason. I thought I need to learn how to ground myself and your article was the first I came too. Before I read this amazing article I was having a hard time. Finances was tight and my father-in-Law want us to move out of his house two weeks before My husband and I have planned on moving. At first I was stressed because I couldn’t see how we was going to get all the money we needed to move until now. Your article surprisingly gave me that missing link that I needed. I feel like everything that is negative is totally gone and anything that was holding us back from moving within the next two weeks is gone. I can feel it. I honestly feel grounded and I know from this place all things are manifested. Thank you sooo much for this lesson. It is greatly appreciated.