Three steps to Changing or Creating anything in your life

This is a small excerpt from my forth-coming book on energy meditation. Enjoy!

“The first thing that happens in any creative process, whether that process is designed to manifest something in your life or to change something in your life, is that a decision has to be made. You have to decide what you want, or want to change. This decision includes the parameters of what the change/creation will look like, feel like, etc. Nothing happens until you decide you want it to happen. Once you’ve made the decision and decided what the specifics of it are, then you can move on to the second step.

The next part of this process is belief. You have to believe many things in order to achieve what you’ve decided you want. You have to believe, first and foremost, that it’s possible. If you don’t believe it’s possible to have what you want, all the decisions in the world will not make it so. Secondly, you have to believe it’s ok to have what you want. You can believe it’s possible to have it, but if it’s not ok for you to have it, it’ll never happen. This includes believing that you deserve what you want. This is you giving yourself permission to have.

Then you have to believe that you can have what you want easily and cleanly. You can believe it’s ok to have it and that it’s possible to have it and that you deserve to have it, but if you believe you have to struggle to get it or that it’s hard to achieve, then it’ll take forever to get it and you’ll wish you hadn’t decided you wanted that particular thing, because of all the hassle and grief you went through to get it.

Lastly, once you’ve made the decision, and you’ve gotten your beliefs about it in order, you have to be willing to allow yourself to have it. Without the willingness to change, or the willingness to let yourself have what you want, you will throw up huge resistances to achieving it. This is where the fun begins, because now you get to look inside yourself and see what is blocking you from being willing to have what you want. What form is the fear inside you taking that is causing the blockage?

I’ve seen this over and over again in my healing clients, as they go through the process of deciding and believing and then not manifesting because they were not willing to either have what they want, or to let go of something they are holding onto that no longer serves them, or both. Once you can clean that up, and using C.E.M. will help you do just that, then you can be willing to allow yourself to have more and more of what you truly want and to make any and all changes that you’ve been wanting to make.”

It may take some time and some practice, but once you’ve gotten it down, you’ll become unstoppable in manifesting anything and everything that you want. So…

Make the Decision,
Have the Belief,
Be Willing to allow it,

And it is yours. =)

Bright Blessings,

Ross – “Tolemac”

Just Breathe…

Introducing the “Life-Love” Breathing Method

Like most kids with any kind of athletic ability, I was always playing some sport or another from an early age. Baseball, football, basketball, gymnastics, tennis, volleyball, etc. Throughout all the different sports I played and then getting into martial arts and yoga when I was older, there was one phrase that I heard over and over again from my various coaches and trainers: “Breathe through the pain”.

If you’ve participated in any type of sports or physical training/conditioning, you’ve probably heard it too. The idea is simple enough. If you get enough oxygen going through your system, it’ll help to dull down the pain signal by overriding it with O2. Well, at least that was the thought given to us from our coaches. While it seemed to work somewhat, it never worked like I thought they meant for it to work, and when I asked my friends and teammates about it, they too said it “sorta worked” for them, but not so much, really.

It wasn’t until the mid ’80s while I was attending metaphysical classes at the Psychic Eye book store in Burbank, CA. that I was given the real way to breathe when dealing with either physical or emotional pain. Our teacher, Alan Schwartz, was always bringing in guest speakers from various esoteric, spiritual and metaphysical modalities for us to learn from. One of those teachers was the very wonderful Master Paulie Zink.

Master Zink is a Grand Champion and Hall of Fame martial artist and yoga master, so he’s eminently familiar with pain. He said, “Don’t breathe through the pain, breathe into the pain.” The technique that he gave us was to visualize our breath literally going into the area of the body that the pain signal was coming from. He said, “See your breath going from your lungs as you breathe in, and going to the pain and going into the pain. See the pain being reduced and removed as you breathe into it.” He also taught us to use this same method to reduce stress, tension and to let go of emotional pain.

Release Release

It absolutely worked. Others in the class, after going through the breathing exercises, told of how they were definitely feeling a major reduction in either pain or stress (and sometimes both). I wasn’t dealing with any physical pain at the time, but I could feel my stress level (due to my job at the time) drop about 80% from what it was. The tension I had been feeling in my trapezius muscles (the muscles between your shoulder and neck) was almost completely gone.

It’s interesting, isn’t it, that we can spend our whole lives doing something all day, every day (’cause we have to) and then learn how to do it better and in a way that will benefit us on all levels. The best part of the whole thing is how easy it is, and that you can do this anywhere that you can give yourself two minutes away from distractions. The feelings of relief and calmness that follows the exercise are amazing. As a former CPR instructor, another thing that I equated with this technique is that we are breathing “life” into those areas that need “rejuvenating”. That was again further enhanced when I started learning from Stuart Wilde about “blowing love” at people and things that could use it. Breathing life and love into our own being. What a wonderful gift to give to ourselves. That’s why I am calling it the “Life-Love” method.

The “Life-Love” Breathing technique

So, here is the better way to breathe and the visualization as I now use it and teach it. You can modify the visualization part to suit your needs: First off, just as a matter of habit and for better health, start breathing so that your stomach expands/protrudes instead of your chest. This allows you to breathe deeper. By breathing in this way, you are getting much more oxygen into your body, which will help your immune system and help keep your bodies energy up. Breathe as deeply and easily as you can, in through your nose and exhale as much air as you can out through your mouth. Just this alone will slow your heart rate down and begin to release body tension.

Now, sitting or lying down in a comfortable position, ground yourself, close your eyes and as you breathe in, direct your “life-love” breath into the area of your body that is experiencing pain. See the energy of life and love going right into the pain and see that beautiful energy diminishing it. As you breathe out, see the pain reducing further and further, until the pain is completely gone. Yes, you can absolutely reduce the pain to nothingness if you allow yourself to let it go. If what you are dealing with is emotional pain, then first breathe into the area of your physical body that is in pain, then see your “life-love” breath going into the emotion you are feeling and reducing it just as easily as it reduced your body pain.

As you let the pain go, forgive yourself for putting yourself in pain. Forgive whoever else is involved if there is anyone that contributed to the pain. Know that it’s ok to let it go and that you do not have to be in pain to get the lesson you wanted to get. If, while you are doing this, the pain feels “stuck”, then use this more advanced grounding technique to help unstick it. Don’t be upset if you don’t let go of the pain completely the first time you use this method. Everyone is different and each of us has a different level of resistance to letting things go. The “habit” of the pain can be very strong, especially if it’s something you’ve been experiencing for a long time, so be gentle and easy with yourself. If it takes one time to let it go, that’s ok. If it takes 20 times to let it go, that’s ok. There is no right or wrong here. Just relief, and you will feel relief each time you use this to let go of any pain you are dealing with.

Please let me know if you have any questions, and we’d love to hear your stories of how this worked for you.

I wish you all Deep Peace. =)

Ross – “Tolemac”

The Power of Perception in a Fast-Changing World

Spiritual Tactics You Need to Know—Where to Go, What to Do

Stuart Wilde is presenting one of his acclaimed, life-changing weekend workshops, in Las Vegas, NV, September 4th-6th, 2009.

The weekend will offer you an intense training in the power of perception, so you can learn to see the Morph, which Stuart says is the best way of staying safe and being able to intuit “what to do and where to go” in turbulent times.

There is no hard and fast recipe for everyone, for the information you seek is deep inside you. There is hidden glory in there, and the spiritual guiding systems inside of you know every minute detail of you and what you actually need, and that comes through to you gradually in what SW calls “pure information”.

To learn more about this exciting event, click this link: “Learn To See” with Stuart Wilde

Bright Blessings,

Ross – Tolemac

Welcome to the Second Level: Part 3

Today I want to talk with you about an interesting level of duality. So what do I mean by interesting? Well, so far in my previous posts on duality (here and here), we’ve looked at the either/or nature of duality and how we have to deal with one or the other. Now, I want to get into two areas where the duality is not so cut and dry. Where the duality is more of a perception than an actuality.

Action and Non-action

At first, these appear to be like any other type of duality that we deal with. It’s when you look deeper into what is really going on that you then see that something is different here. Something has definitely changed with respect to the either/or concept. Let me give you an example. If you are running, that is an action. If you stop running, that too is an action and you could say that it’s a non-action because you are no longer in the act of running. While that is true in the sense that you are not running, it is not true in the sense that you are no longer taking action.

This is where it gets into deeper territory on a metaphysical level. When you look at it from this level, you see that everything we do is an action. No matter how you want to phrase it, or look at it or conceive of it, everything is an action. There is, in fact, no time at which we are not in the process of being in an action. This is where the bonds of duality start to slip. There is no up/down, in/out type of duality when talking about action. There is only the single face of it. By understanding this concept, it gives us the ability to see deeper into who and what we are, and to realize that all we do is action. So, where does this action come from?

To Be, Or Not To Be

While that’s not necessarily the question (apologies to the Bard) it does bring us to another level of concept where duality goes sideways. The concept is choices and decisions and the ones we make. Just like with actions, at first it appears to have duality insofar as we either decide (choose) do to something or not. However, once we again look deeper into it we find that everything we do is based on a choice/decision and even when we choose/decide not to do something, we still have made a choice/decision.

We cannot escape making decisions. Ever. Indeed, while the choices we make will have the concept of duality embedded in them (all choices are basically either/or choices) we cannot stop making choices and decisions. Just like action, decision-making is never ending. There is only one side to it. Can you see what I mean by this? Do you start to get some of what this implies as to how we can live our lives in a clearer way?

You see, to be or not to be actually is the question. Because everything is your choice and your actions are dictated by those choices and decisions, by acknowledging that you are in a constant state of deciding and action taking, your personal responsibility for yourself comes to the forefront. Once you realize this and that you are indeed the master of your life, you can now make better decisions, and consequently, take better actions that will help you to become better in all aspects of your life.

Making A Positive Choice

Sit in meditation and look at your decisions and the actions that you’ve taken. Do this as neutrally as possible and simply see how you have made certain choices and done certain things. There is no right or wrong here and definitely no blame. There is only what is. Notice how many of your decisions were made from a negative emotional space and how many were from a positive space. See how the ones that came from the positive space have benefited you greatly and how the ones made from the negative space have been anywhere from annoying to truly devastating.

When you look at these decisions and actions from this neutral space, you see that you are the only creator in your life. You see how you are the only one who can make a decision or take an action for yourself from whatever emotional stance you wish. Now you can become a truly aware architect of your life. May you choose wisely. =)

Bright Blessings.

Ross – “Tolemac”