Advanced Grounding Techniques – Part 2

Hello everyone. Today I want to give you another Advanced Grounding Technique that I have seen help countless clients, family and friends to reduce their fear, stress and anxiety levels dramatically.

If you have not read my previous posts on grounding, be sure to read them first so that you are familiar with the terms and main techniques. You can find the first one here: Staying Grounded… and the second one here: Advanced Grounding Techniques Once you’ve gotten the previous techniques down, then come back to this post.

Ok, so you have your body, chakras and aura grounded. You’re in your place of power in the center of your head, and you’re relaxed and calm. Now is a great time to use the next technique. This one involves your negative emotions and the pictures in your memory that causes those emotions to come up. Whenever we think about a past experience, whether positive or negative, the first thing that happens is we “see” a picture of the event in our mind’s eye. Then, based on our feelings and the experience we had at that time, we then express an emotion about that picture.

Everyone does this, and we do it all the time. There is not any time when we do not feel an emotion about a past experience, unless you have really trained yourself to be in neutrality, and you are able to look at your life experiences from that neutral space. Suffice it to say that the majority of people have not trained themselves in that fashion, so they are indeed feeling an emotion about their past. Ok, so you think of a past experience and have an emotion about it. The question then becomes, “How does this effect me?”

You have all had the experience of thinking about a memory that was not pleasant and then having negative emotions come up about that experience. For some, these emotions can become overwhelming due to the nature of the memory and what took place. I have helped many people that suffer panic/anxiety attacks and found that they all are going through this process in an extreme way. Something triggers a memory of a “bad time” and they go into panic mode. As anyone who has suffered such an attack can tell you, it’s completely debilitating. Most people practically freeze in place; their bodies are completely overwhelmed by the fear emotion and they cannot hardly breathe, much less move.

The Technique

As with anything in life, each of us feels these things to varying degrees, but the main point is that the negative emotions do not feel good. You can change that now, by utilizing this process and letting those fear based emotions go. Just like I talked about in the first Advanced Grounding Techniques post, you can give a grounding cord to basically anything, as we are dealing with energy, and energy can be manipulated to work for you on any level. This technique is just as easy and simple as the others are. When you remember something that causes you to feel a negative emotion, see in your minds eye the picture that is there and give that picture it’s own grounding cord. Once you’ve set up the cord to the center of the earth, set it on release and see all the negative emotions associated with that picture being released down the cord.

While this is happening, forgive yourself for whatever brought that memory up to your consciousness; also forgive yourself for the original situation you found yourself in. Be thankful and grateful for what the experience taught you, and let it go with love and peace. Remember, there really are only two emotions. At any given time, you are either feeling love or fear. All the emotions we have labels for fit into one of those two main categories. As Abraham says, you really only have two choices: To feel better or to feel worse.

Depending on how intense the feeling is for the particular memory you’re reviewing, you may feel immediate relief on a huge level, or you may just feel calmer than you did when the memory came up. There is no right or wrong way to feel when you do this. Any relief is a good thing. For most situations, you may only need to ground the picture one time to let the negative energy go. If you have a greater attachment to the memory, it may require a few times to get it to the point where you don’t have the negative emotions bombard you whenever you think about that picture.

By doing this process when you are in a calm, relaxed state to begin with, you can let go a lot more as there is little to no resistance inside yourself. You can also do this “on the fly”, as it were, when something comes up for you. Find a place where you can sit down for a few minutes and ground yourself and the picture the best you can. Get as centered as possible and try to allow the release to happen. Don’t worry if you don’t feel like you were able to ground it when the emotion first hits if you are not in a place to do so comfortably. Just tell the emotion that you’ll deal with it later. I’ve seen that work amazingly well on many occasions. Once you are in your safe environment, no matter where that is, go through the process as I’ve laid it out and re-set a new grounding cord on that picture.

The more you practice these techniques, the better you will feel overall. By the very act of consciously letting go of the negative emotions, forgiving yourself and being at peace with what was, you are telling yourself that you want to feel more good emotions in your life. Because that becomes your predominant thought and feeling, you bring to yourself better feeling thoughts and experiences. As you do that, you will find that you can accomplish more in, and with, your life.

Please leave a comment to let us know your experiences with this or if you have any questions.

Deep Peace,

Ross – “Tolemac”

Understanding Manifestation and Creation

Here’s a situation I see fairly frequently with friends and clients who are new to the Law of Attraction and metaphysics in general. They tend to not fully understand manifestation and creation in regards to the Law of Attraction and how they are the major part of that manifestation.

When I’ve asked them “when are you manifesting and creating?”, most say that when they’ve created something “big” in their lives, whether it was a positive or negative experience, then that is when they were manifesting. They can see the evidence of the Law of Attraction and how it works in their lives, but their perspective is narrow, as they are only looking at these large events that have taken place.

This is not unusual. Most people only really remember the “big events” of their life. Those that have impacted them in a strong emotional way. Rarely does anyone recall or remember the small things that happen on a daily basis. Because we are not taught to pay attention to everything going on around us and inside us, we tend to let those small things drift out of our consciousness. I see this as one of the blocks to our spiritual evolution, and another reason why some people have a difficult time manifesting what they want.

Here is what I tell my healing clients and metaphysical students:

Everything that is in your life right now, you manifested. Everything that has ever been in your life, you manifested.

So what do I mean by “everything”? I mean exactly that. Everything. Every moment, every thought, every action, every feeling, every experience; you created for yourself. That’s what we are. We’re creators and manifestors. We have thoughts, which create feelings, which create desires, which create manifestations. By understanding that this is who we are and this is how we operate, we can now see that EVERYTHING we do is a creation and that it is all sacred.

Does this mean you have to acknowledge every minute thing in your life? Every thought, or feeling, or action, no matter how seemingly insignificant? Of course, you acknowledge everything, but you don’t have to examine each thing separately. You can if you want to, but that would cause you to not get much accomplished, as you’d be too busy acknowledging every breath, and every heart beat, etc. No, you don’t have to go to that extreme, but you do have to acknowledge, in general, that you are the one manifesting all of these things going on, and to be grateful for them in your life.

That said, I will tell you that the more you do acknowledge, appreciate and are grateful for the smaller events and experiences in your life, the more positive experiences you’ll create for yourself. This is the main principle of the Law of Attraction. Like attracts like. As you become more and more grateful for all that is around and in you, more and more circumstances will be created that you can be grateful for.

What Is Your Perspective?

Another aspect to understanding manifestation and creation is knowing what your perspective is. To illustrate this point, let me give you my favorite example. If you are looking at a rose, then what are you seeing? Well, a flowering bush that we call a rose, that has certain colors and smells and other characteristics we find pleasurable, for the most part. There are the thorns, which are not pleasurable, but if we’re careful then we don’t have to worry about them. In the main, it’s a beautiful flower, and we enjoy it. 



Now what if you were a farmer raising daisies? What would your perspective be then, if you saw a rose in the middle of your daisy field? Now, that is no longer a beautiful flower to be admired for it’s color and scent. No, now that rose a weed. But wait a minute, it’s a rose. How can one of the most cherished flowers in history be thought of as a weed? From the perspective of the farmer, it’s easy. The rose is not where it “should” be, and it certainly isn’t supposed to be in the middle of the daisies.

This example can be applied to everything that you experience. Do you see how our perspective changes everything? To most, the idea of a single rose bush flowering in the middle of all the white and yellow of the daisies would be an interesting contrast indeed, but the farmer’s gone for the weed killer and a hoe. Once you recognize that how you see things determines your feelings about them, you can begin to change your perspective to one that is not limiting and negative. One of the fastest ways to do this is by acknowledging that you were the one who created whatever is in front of you to begin with.

This will give you an opportunity to re-examine your perspective on the object, person or situation and change it to a more positive one. If it’s something that is “perceived” as a negative, then forgive yourself, let the negativity of it go, and even if you can’t see anything particularly positive about it at the moment, at least get as neutral to it as you can. Once you practice this, you’ll see how your feelings and perspective changes about everything around you. You will begin to bring in much more positive experiences into your life.

By understanding that you create it all and that you have the ability to change your perspective, you will allow yourself to see more than you’ve seen before. You will give yourself a view of your life that is clear and uncluttered. You will give yourself a level of gratitude and love higher than you’ve ever experienced. In turn, your prosperity and abundance, on all levels, will grow tremendously.

Bright Blessings to you!

Ross – Tolemac

Balancing the Spiritual and the Physical: A Beginning Guide

One thing that I have found while working with my healing clients over the years, is the similarity of experiences that each of us goes through when we discover metaphysics and start looking at our own inner spirituality for the first time. Most people begin to feel like “reality” is slipping away. There’s a sensation of moving between worlds. Often times, people get completely ungrounded which in turn causes them to lose touch with their physical selves. Then comes the time when each persons “spiritual journey” or “reason for being” comes into focus, and the sensation can become very surreal.

Coping with fundamentals such as breathing and “remembering” our day-to-day necessities while balancing between these apparently divergent experiences until each of us can blend them together appears to be quite the accomplishment. One thing that I see occurring often is people tend to want to stay with the new, spiritual experience because of the feelings of lightness, oneness and rightness that are felt in that state. The “Everyday World” seems heavy, dull and much less important. I’ve watched people at times ignore even some of the most basic of necessities because of the “bliss” that they are feeling.

The Spiritual Path feels like walking amongst the clouds. You can allow yourself to be totally in awe of spirituality. And because of its alluring influence, it is easy to understand why we prefer to be there. Unfortunately, this can lead to disaster if you are not properly grounded. The two must be held in balance for anything to get accomplished and for us to progress on both paths.

The following are just a few methods that will help you to maintain your integrity and balance while fulfilling your goals, both mundane and spiritual:

Maintain Your Money.

My friend Stuart Wilde used to say, “You can meditate all day on top of the mountain, but you have to come down into the “market place” to interact with others to create wealth.” If you depend strictly on spirit to “do for you”, you tend to stop taking the required actions to produce income and sooner than later, the money’s gone. It’s like I used to tell people when I worked in the Casino business: “You can’t win if you don’t bet!” You simply have to put yourself in the places and situations where you can create the money you need, first of all to survive, and then second of all, to be able to continue having these wonderful spiritual experiences. Going to metaphysical sites, or seminars or getting the books you want require money, so make sure you have what you need and then get more so that you can get what you want as well.

The other reason for wanting to maintain your balance in the “market place” and with your money is that then you attract the people who can help you, and they will show up at the right place and time. It’s amazing how many people believe that since they’ve found their “path”, that the money they need will simply find them. While this does happen on occasion, it is definitely not the norm. That said you will find that it’s a lot easier to manifest what you need, as long as you maintain the actions required. This is, as we were taught at Berkeley Psychic Institute, known as a “Growth Period.” This means it will take lots of action, both mentally and spiritually, to remain focused and present. This leads right into the next method, which is…

Goal Setting.

As I just said, creating what we need and want requires action. Getting lost in the joy and oneness of our spiritual path, it’s easy to lose focus and to set aside the actions needed to accomplish our goals. You want to complete each action with as much positivity and willingness as possible. Richard Bach, in his beautiful novel “Illusions” said it this way. “The more I want to get something done, the less I call it work”. This is what I mean about being “willing”. You have to be willing to set your goals down. You have to be willing to change them as necessary. You have to be willing, most importantly of all, to follow them. Life seems to be a little (or a lot) on the rough and tumble side? Then ask “source energy” or the “God Force”, or (insert the ‘deity’ of your choice) to make it easier. Ask that your steps be made lighter.

My favorite phrase to use in situations like this is to say [Your Goal You Want Completed] “Quickly, Cleanly and Easily”. Now, you have to be awake and aware and open to the possibilities that “source” may bring to you. It may not look like what you envisioned at first, but that doesn’t mean it’s not just the thing you need to complete the goal. Allow it to be for your highest and best, and watch as the “infinite wisdom” sends you the answers you need.

Allow Yourself To Receive.

You have to be able to give to yourself. If you can’t allow yourself to have, or give to yourself freely, then that energy you are putting out will keep you from attracting anything you want. None of your goals will get finished or accomplished if you don’t feel you “deserve” the finished product. I have found many people have a misconception about spirituality and money. They think that money is not spiritual, and therefore they shun it and considered it beneath them. Well, if we lived in a society where money was not the means of exchange, then I might agree with them, however… Remember, that’s all money is. A means of energy exchange. My cash in exchange for your product or service. We need it to survive. We need it to thrive! It’s perfectly ok to give to yourself, and it’s perfectly ok to allow yourself to have ANYTHING YOU WANT! You have my, and the universes, permission on that. 😉

One of the best ways I’ve found to help people with receiving issues is for them to give to others. By giving to others, either monetarily or with their time and talent, they see first hand how others receiving their gifts are better for it. In turn, those people give to others and so on. The energy must flow continuously. If you refuse to accept it, it will simply by-pass you completely. This goes for accepting money for services rendered. Many of my fellow healers and psychics have been caught up in the idea that they should not charge for what they do. By doing that, they are, unconsciously, stopping the flow. There has to be an energy exchange. Before the advent of money, people bartered for what they needed. So what’s different now? Nothing. On an energy level, it’s exactly the same, we’re just using a different object to barter with. This level of energy bring us to…

Taking Care Of Yourself and Others.

By taking care of your family, your pets, others in your life and yourself, you put out the energy of helpfulness, confidence and trust. Believe me, this energy gets returned to you many-fold. What’s the best way to take care of yourself and those around you? With Love. Love yourself. Love your family and friends. Love who you are and who they are. Love is by far the most powerful feeling/emotion/expression/energy there is. When you express Love, negativity and fear cannot stand against it. When you are using the energy of Love, you are taking care of yourself and everyone else with the highest vibration possible. From that energy, all things are possible. Along with this energy/emotion, include physical activity to maintain your body in good form.

To really have fun with this, feel the Love energy flow through you as you perform whatever activity you’ve chosen. Imagine feeling Love and gratitude while mowing the lawn, doing the dishes, playing a game of basketball or any other sport. Feel the Joy of the activity and how your body responds positively when you feel positive and joyful. Chores will never be dull and boring again! You will find renewed physical energy when you are coming from Love. Everyday projects become fun and inspiring. Your creativity will increase dramatically, because you are not coming from drudgery, resistance and fear. An added benefit I’ve seen many times over is that the “work” gets done much faster and much more efficiently. You also feel better before, during and after. This is a great way of taking care of yourself.

I hope you have found these methods helpful in creating a more spiritual, yet grounded life. Be sure to read my article on Grounding to get the technique for that down, and don’t hesitate to ask me any questions you may have in the comment section.

Blessed Be!