What is Your Statement of Positivity?

So, what is a Positivity statement? First off, this is another tool that you can use to maintain a more positive outlook, emotion and energy, in your life. Typically, a Statement of Positivity starts with “I always…” followed by your positive statement about something that tends to happen more often than not. They can be about almost any subject or situation. Some of the ones I’ve heard over the years have been, “I always do good on math tests”, and “I always have the best time when I go to so-and-so’s house”, and “I always feel wonderful when I’m at the beach” and one of my personal ones, “I always feel amazing when I work with my healing clients”. Sometimes, a positivity statement can start with “I never…”, such as “I never get sick”, or “I never let minor irritations bother me”.

“I always walk in beauty and peace when I am in the woods”

Most everyone has at least one of these statements of positivity that they say on a regular basis. While some may not feel like they do because they don’t normally say it out loud, if you check how you feel about going to places that you enjoy, or seeing people that you love and respond to, you’ll find the mental inner talk that is saying these statements. Your mom says, “We’re going to Grandma’s on Sunday”, and you get excited and happy. You know you are going to have a good time. Why? Because you almost always have a good time when you’re at your Grandma’s house.

This is an expected outcome. You expect to feel good, be treated well and have a fun time. Because this is what you expect to happen, you send out positive waves of energy and emotion and those waves are reflected back to you and you receive them in the form of that good time at Grandma’s. You’ve just created your reality the way you wanted it to be, and you didn’t have to work at it, or think hard about it, or struggle emotionally with it. You had a thought, you then had a positive and good feeling about the thought, and you then set up the vibration based on your energy and emotion and so it was.

“I always feel an infinite connection when I meditate”

As you can see, this can become an extremely powerful tool that you can use to create your life to be as fun, loving and amazing as you want. You can also use this to reverse any negative statements that you’ve been making about your life. Instead of saying things like, “I never catch a break”, you can look back on your life, and see the times when you did indeed catch a break, and so you can modify the negative statement to a positive one by saying something like, “You know, sometimes I do catch a break, and I’m grateful for that.”

Whenever you look at anything that is a positive or a good feeling aspect of your life, you are immediately giving that aspect more energy and “life force” than the negative aspect. Remember, what you focus on, becomes your reality. The more strong emotion you have about what you’re focusing on, the faster it becomes your reality. Look at how good you feel when you say, or think, one of your statements of positivity. You not only feel good, but you also feel more confident and secure, because of your positive expectation. What this confidence and secure feelings do is calm your ego down, so that it doesn’t feel threatened. This means that the more positive statements you can say to yourself and about yourself, the more you are in spiritual and emotional control of your life.

“I always enjoy playing my guitar, for myself and others”

Have fun with this new tool, and see how easy it is for you to create new statements of positivity about all the different aspects of your life. They become very powerful affirmations that you can use at any time to help you shift your focus, reset your energy and feel better and better about you. Remember to make sure your statement is in present time, and that the words you use are powerful and meaningful to you, and help you to feel better. =)

Bright Blessings,

Ross – “Tolemac”

“Deep Cleansing Breaths” Releasing Method

I thought this would be an appropriate day and time in our lives, and in our history, to share this particular method of release, seeing as we all have much to release and let go of, individually and as a people.

Today I am going to talk with you about a releasing method that is quick, easy and can be done practically anywhere. What are you going to release? Whatever you want to, basically. Definitely whatever no longer serves you. Only you can make that decision, so I’m going to keep it general in that department. This method can be done standing or seated, whichever is most comfortable for you, and either inside or outside. Whereever and whenever you can do this is good as long as you have about 2 to 5 minutes to yourself. Yes, it’s that quick. 😉

You begin by closing your eyes and as neutrally as possible, look at the emotion or situation you want to release. If you are sitting, sit with your arms on your legs, palms up. If you are standing, start with your arms loosely at your sides.

Now, breathe in deeply, easily and slowly through your nose. As you fill your lungs up with life giving air, say this Stuart Wilde affirmation to yourself:

“I am the power. I pull from within me the energy I need to go beyond my challenges.”

Visualize your inner energy rising up within you as you breathe in and say the affirmation. See it filling your entire being with positivity and light. At the top of the breath, hold it for just a moment, then again slowly and easily, let your breath out through your mouth and say my release affirmation to yourself:

“I now lovingly release and let go of (insert what you wish to release) cleanly and easily.”

As you let your breath out, see whatever it is that you are releasing as going down your grounding cord, all the way to the center of the Earth. At the bottom of the breath, hold it for just a moment and then begin the process again. Do this three times and then relax and breathe normally for a moment or two.

This is when I incorporate an EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tap to help your body release even deeper. With the first three fingers of your dominant hand and using the finger tips, tap what’s called the “karate chop” point (it’s on the outside of your hand, just below the last pinkie knuckle) on your other hand, while saying the following:

“Even though I’m feeling (insert how you feel about the situation, or whatever the emotion that you want to release), I deeply and completely love and forgive myself.”

Do this three times as well and continue to tap as you say it. You don’t need to tap fast, or hard; a steady rhythm works best. Once you’ve completed this three times, again, just relax and breathe easy. If you have the time and really want to let go, then do this whole process three times in one session. So that would be Breathing – Tapping – Breathing – Tapping – Breathing – Tapping.

The power of doing things three times is an ancient magical practice. One of the old magic sayings was “Thrice spoken, Once fulfilled”.

By using this releasing method, you are consciously letting go emotionally, mentally and physically of those things that no longer serve you or work for you at this time. I hope you find this method as easy to use as I do, and please let me know if you have any questions about it.

Brightest Blessings to you all on this historic day!

Ross – “Tolemac”

The Power To Change Is In Your Hands

Most people stop themselves from accomplishing and achieving what they would really like and want to do in life mainly because they do not have the belief in themselves that they can make the changes necessary. Typically, these are the people that say words like “I can’t” and “if only”. It is not often that they realize that they are the ones that have the power within themselves to achieve anything they desire, if they are only willing to change themselves.

Typically, people think that change is completely beyond their control and so they feel totally powerless to do anything that can change the situation they find themselves in. However by changing ourselves and our outlook on life, we then begin to take charge of our lives and make the changes needed. By changing how you think and feel about yourself and your circumstances, you give yourself the power to change your life to the one you want. One where everything is possible and is within easy reach. Here are a couple of simple methods to get you started in making the changes you want.

What is it that you want from life?

The very first step to changing your life is to decide what it is exactly that you want to change in yourself and/or your life. Is there some particular aspect in your life that you want to change? Is there something about you as a person you feel needs changing? You need to write down specifically what it is that you wish to change, making as complete a list of everything that you aren’t happy about as possible, and the changes you believe you need to make.

Get out a legal size sheet of paper, and make two headlines at the top. Mark the first one on the upper left as “Things I want to change” and mark the second one on the upper right as “How I will change them” Now, you can number down the left hand side if you wish, and list out first, all the things in you and your life you want to change. Be completely honest and as specific as possible. Once you’ve listed those out, go back to the top and start on the right hand column and list how you are going to make the changes for each one. Again, be specific and honest.

If you want to actually make these changes, you have to come from as open a place inside yourself as possible. Self delusion, or hiding what is real will only keep you from making the changes you want. The way we feel about ourselves and see ourselves, has everything to do with how we see life. If we are full of fear, self-doubt and lack of confidence, this shows in how we present ourselves to the world and to our own selves.

Change your mind, change your life

Self-doubt will get you down really quickly, so one of the first steps you’ll need to do to accomplish taking your life back into your own hands is to change your basic outlook.
You need to realize that it is you and only you that has the power to change and the secret to this is freeing your mind and body from fear and doubts so that you can start to move forward and begin making the changes you want. Allowing yourself to have a more positive attitude will help you to be able to change the way you feel and react to any situation.

More importantly, it will help you with what you are able to achieve. You will be able to do this because with a different attitude towards life in general, you will see things differently and you’ll experience them differently, with more confidence and self-assuredness. Also, others around you will be more responsive to you and your needs and they will appreciate how you are better able to handle situations. This in turn will give you even more self confidence.

Of necessity, the changes you make should be small at first, as you don’t want to add the stress of trying to accomplish huge changes on the hurry up. Soon though, you will begin to realize that the changes are happening and that it is you that is making them happen. You’ll realize that you don’t have to rely on anyone else.

Along with these positive changes, you will feel better, have more self-esteem, confidence, be more enthusiastic and be more self-motivated. Whenever I finish with a healing client, I have them look in the mirror so that they can see immediately how they look better than they did before, both physically and energetically. Recognize the positive changes you are making and celebrate them! Validate yourself for every step you take. This positive re-enforcement goes a long way to helping you make even bigger changes, and making them quicker.

Taking and accepting responsibility

Taking full responsibility for your life is a magical thing. It can immediately remove the idea of “blame”. By accepting total responsibility and realizing that you alone hold the power to make the changes you want, you will bring incredible self-satisfaction to yourself. Remember, “responsibility” is simply being “able to respond” So, when you take a deep and totally truthful look at your life, you will easily see that you and you alone made the decisions that brought you to where you are.

Sure, other people and situations influenced your decisions, but ultimately, you are the one who agreed to them. By not “blaming” anything or anyone outside of yourself, you really are free to make even better decisions. The idea here is not to blame yourself either. The idea is to accept the way you dealt with whatever came along, forgive yourself if it didn’t turn out like you wanted it to and to move forward toward better choices, and to acknowledge yourself if the changes and decisions you make work out for you.

Too often, people are very quick to judge themselves harshly when things go awry, but rarely allow themselves to feel good for things that turn out the way they wanted or needed. By taking responsibility for your life, you can say honestly and completely, “I did that” whether it was “good ” or “not so good”. This will give you a freedom that most people will never experience.

Here are a few quick tips to help you make changes in your life:

  • Find a self-help course to attend.

    Most people will need a guiding hand to get them going when they first start out to make the changes they want in their life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking out help at this time, and one of the best ways to do that is to attend a workshop or course that can help you get the advice and support you need so that you can take control in a safe environment.

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  • Read self-help books and/or watch DVD’s..

    If you are unable to attend a class or workshop, then getting motivational DVD’s and self-help books is the next best thing to being there. While you won’t have the interaction, you can still find plenty of inspiration to get you going on the right path.

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  • Clean up your space.

    Clutter in the environment leads to clutter in the mind. One of the best ways to prepare for the changes you want to make, is to change the energy of the space where you live. Get rid of the old energy by doing a thorough cleaning and by removing objects that either are no longer useful, or invoke negative feelings. Recycle old clothing and let go of anything that distracts you from what you want to accomplish. Read up on Feng Shui, or if there’s one in your area, hire a consultant to come in and help you re-set the energy of your home. This one tip goes a very long way to getting you into the right mind set to create a better you.

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    Finally, remember to love yourself and to be your own best friend. If you don’t like and love yourself, how can anyone else? By treating yourself with love, forgiveness and respect, others will treat you that way as well.

    Deep Peace and Brightest Blessings!