“Deep Cleansing Breaths” Releasing Method

I thought this would be an appropriate day and time in our lives, and in our history, to share this particular method of release, seeing as we all have much to release and let go of, individually and as a people.

Today I am going to talk with you about a releasing method that is quick, easy and can be done practically anywhere. What are you going to release? Whatever you want to, basically. Definitely whatever no longer serves you. Only you can make that decision, so I’m going to keep it general in that department. This method can be done standing or seated, whichever is most comfortable for you, and either inside or outside. Whereever and whenever you can do this is good as long as you have about 2 to 5 minutes to yourself. Yes, it’s that quick. 😉

You begin by closing your eyes and as neutrally as possible, look at the emotion or situation you want to release. If you are sitting, sit with your arms on your legs, palms up. If you are standing, start with your arms loosely at your sides.

Now, breathe in deeply, easily and slowly through your nose. As you fill your lungs up with life giving air, say this Stuart Wilde affirmation to yourself:

“I am the power. I pull from within me the energy I need to go beyond my challenges.”

Visualize your inner energy rising up within you as you breathe in and say the affirmation. See it filling your entire being with positivity and light. At the top of the breath, hold it for just a moment, then again slowly and easily, let your breath out through your mouth and say my release affirmation to yourself:

“I now lovingly release and let go of (insert what you wish to release) cleanly and easily.”

As you let your breath out, see whatever it is that you are releasing as going down your grounding cord, all the way to the center of the Earth. At the bottom of the breath, hold it for just a moment and then begin the process again. Do this three times and then relax and breathe normally for a moment or two.

This is when I incorporate an EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tap to help your body release even deeper. With the first three fingers of your dominant hand and using the finger tips, tap what’s called the “karate chop” point (it’s on the outside of your hand, just below the last pinkie knuckle) on your other hand, while saying the following:

“Even though I’m feeling (insert how you feel about the situation, or whatever the emotion that you want to release), I deeply and completely love and forgive myself.”

Do this three times as well and continue to tap as you say it. You don’t need to tap fast, or hard; a steady rhythm works best. Once you’ve completed this three times, again, just relax and breathe easy. If you have the time and really want to let go, then do this whole process three times in one session. So that would be Breathing – Tapping – Breathing – Tapping – Breathing – Tapping.

The power of doing things three times is an ancient magical practice. One of the old magic sayings was “Thrice spoken, Once fulfilled”.

By using this releasing method, you are consciously letting go emotionally, mentally and physically of those things that no longer serve you or work for you at this time. I hope you find this method as easy to use as I do, and please let me know if you have any questions about it.

Brightest Blessings to you all on this historic day!

Ross – “Tolemac”

108 Belly Massage – Fast and Easy Centering Technique

Sometimes, the most profound techniques are the simplest to do and to use. The 108 Belly Massage is a definite case in point. This method was taught to us by our main acupuncturist and Shen Master, Dr. Harijot Singh Khalsa. It is quick, easy and can basically be done anywhere, at any time if you have just a few minutes to yourself.

With your dominant hand, you place your palm flat on your belly just below your solar plexis. Now, in a circular fashion, move your hand to the left side of your belly, but not fully to the side of your body, then down below your navel point, just above your groin, and then come up the right side of your belly and complete the circle back at the starting point completely circling around your belly button. You do not have to apply much pressure at all, simply push in with your hand slightly.

You do this circular belly massage 108 times. That may sound like a lot, but in fact it really does only take just a couple of minutes to complete, depending on how fast you’re going. The idea here is not to do it too fast and not to do it too slow. You’ll find the pace that is right for you once you’ve done it a couple of times.

Ok, so what does this do, and why 108 times? This technique helps to bring in and focus your body energy. By doing this especially right before you get out of bed in the morning, you are strengthening and balancing your bodies energy before any outside energy of the day can intrude. Along with grounding and being in the center of your head, this will give you much needed strength, stamina and balance as you go to meet the demands of the day. Feeling a little run down and a lack of energy? Do this belly massage and feel your energy return to you right away. It also helps to calm you and bring you to a state of peace because of the centering effect it has.

The idea behind doing this 108 times goes back to ancient Sanskrit times. It is considered a very sacred number. There are many examples of the number 108 being used for meditation, chanting and repetitions of various yogic exercises. In the Sanskrit alphabet, there are 54 letters and each has a masculine and feminine perspective, which gives us 108. The Sun’s diameter is 108 times bigger than Earth’s diameter. There are 108 different stages the human soul passes through on it’s way to enlightenment. In astrology, there are 9 planets and 12 houses (9×12=108). There are 108 lines of energy, or nadis, that radiate from the human heart, etc.

As you can see, the number 108 is quite prevalent in many areas of our world. By doing this massage 108 times, you are aligning with the vibration of that number and bringing in it’s energy to you. It is part of my daily meditation routine, and considering how easy it is to do, you will do well to add it to yours also. I know you will find it to be a wonderful addition to your spiritual practice.

Deep Peace,

Tolemac

A New Years Blessing of Release and Letting Go

You can use this blessing at anytime really, but it is particularly good to use at the end of something. A job, a committment, a relationship, a project, whatever. This will help you to let go of what has ended and to bring back to you your energy that you have used or given away during the process. Simply substitute “old year”/”2008” with whatever you are releasing. This is best done from a meditative state. Look with your inner sight at the object of release, and say…

Hello, old year of 2008. I see that it is time for you and I to part. In my minds eye, I look back and I see all that you and I accomplished together, and I am grateful for those things. I see all that you and I did not accomplish, and I am grateful for the lessons of those things.

It is with this gratitude and thanks that I now release and let go of all that we were, knowing that I have grown from the experience; knowing that I am different than I was and that I no longer have use for what was, but instead look at the present state of what is and look forward to what will be.

I release and let go of all of the negative emotions that I had in 2008, no matter what might have caused them to surface. I recall back to me all of my energy that I spent and sent out in negative thought and feeling. I recall back to me also all of the positive energy that I gave out, knowing that only I can use my own energy.

I fully release and let go of the people, events and things from the past year that no longer serve my highest purpose. I release them joyously, and with a glad and grateful heart for the lessons learned. I wish them well, and I wish them gone from my life so that I may invite in new people, events and things that are better aligned to who I am now.

I now say Goodbye to you, 2008. You were what you were, and I am thankful for the many things I experienced and learned during your time.

So mote it be!

I wish you all the very Brightest Blessings for the New Year!

Deep Peace, Prosperity, Health & Happiness!!

Ross – Tolemac

Balancing the Spiritual and the Physical: A Beginning Guide

One thing that I have found while working with my healing clients over the years, is the similarity of experiences that each of us goes through when we discover metaphysics and start looking at our own inner spirituality for the first time. Most people begin to feel like “reality” is slipping away. There’s a sensation of moving between worlds. Often times, people get completely ungrounded which in turn causes them to lose touch with their physical selves. Then comes the time when each persons “spiritual journey” or “reason for being” comes into focus, and the sensation can become very surreal.

Coping with fundamentals such as breathing and “remembering” our day-to-day necessities while balancing between these apparently divergent experiences until each of us can blend them together appears to be quite the accomplishment. One thing that I see occurring often is people tend to want to stay with the new, spiritual experience because of the feelings of lightness, oneness and rightness that are felt in that state. The “Everyday World” seems heavy, dull and much less important. I’ve watched people at times ignore even some of the most basic of necessities because of the “bliss” that they are feeling.

The Spiritual Path feels like walking amongst the clouds. You can allow yourself to be totally in awe of spirituality. And because of its alluring influence, it is easy to understand why we prefer to be there. Unfortunately, this can lead to disaster if you are not properly grounded. The two must be held in balance for anything to get accomplished and for us to progress on both paths.

The following are just a few methods that will help you to maintain your integrity and balance while fulfilling your goals, both mundane and spiritual:

Maintain Your Money.

My friend Stuart Wilde used to say, “You can meditate all day on top of the mountain, but you have to come down into the “market place” to interact with others to create wealth.” If you depend strictly on spirit to “do for you”, you tend to stop taking the required actions to produce income and sooner than later, the money’s gone. It’s like I used to tell people when I worked in the Casino business: “You can’t win if you don’t bet!” You simply have to put yourself in the places and situations where you can create the money you need, first of all to survive, and then second of all, to be able to continue having these wonderful spiritual experiences. Going to metaphysical sites, or seminars or getting the books you want require money, so make sure you have what you need and then get more so that you can get what you want as well.

The other reason for wanting to maintain your balance in the “market place” and with your money is that then you attract the people who can help you, and they will show up at the right place and time. It’s amazing how many people believe that since they’ve found their “path”, that the money they need will simply find them. While this does happen on occasion, it is definitely not the norm. That said you will find that it’s a lot easier to manifest what you need, as long as you maintain the actions required. This is, as we were taught at Berkeley Psychic Institute, known as a “Growth Period.” This means it will take lots of action, both mentally and spiritually, to remain focused and present. This leads right into the next method, which is


Goal Setting.

As I just said, creating what we need and want requires action. Getting lost in the joy and oneness of our spiritual path, it’s easy to lose focus and to set aside the actions needed to accomplish our goals. You want to complete each action with as much positivity and willingness as possible. Richard Bach, in his beautiful novel “Illusions” said it this way. “The more I want to get something done, the less I call it work”. This is what I mean about being “willing”. You have to be willing to set your goals down. You have to be willing to change them as necessary. You have to be willing, most importantly of all, to follow them. Life seems to be a little (or a lot) on the rough and tumble side? Then ask “source energy” or the “God Force”, or (insert the ‘deity’ of your choice) to make it easier. Ask that your steps be made lighter.

My favorite phrase to use in situations like this is to say [Your Goal You Want Completed] “Quickly, Cleanly and Easily”. Now, you have to be awake and aware and open to the possibilities that “source” may bring to you. It may not look like what you envisioned at first, but that doesn’t mean it’s not just the thing you need to complete the goal. Allow it to be for your highest and best, and watch as the “infinite wisdom” sends you the answers you need.

Allow Yourself To Receive.

You have to be able to give to yourself. If you can’t allow yourself to have, or give to yourself freely, then that energy you are putting out will keep you from attracting anything you want. None of your goals will get finished or accomplished if you don’t feel you “deserve” the finished product. I have found many people have a misconception about spirituality and money. They think that money is not spiritual, and therefore they shun it and considered it beneath them. Well, if we lived in a society where money was not the means of exchange, then I might agree with them, however
 Remember, that’s all money is. A means of energy exchange. My cash in exchange for your product or service. We need it to survive. We need it to thrive! It’s perfectly ok to give to yourself, and it’s perfectly ok to allow yourself to have ANYTHING YOU WANT! You have my, and the universes, permission on that. 😉

One of the best ways I’ve found to help people with receiving issues is for them to give to others. By giving to others, either monetarily or with their time and talent, they see first hand how others receiving their gifts are better for it. In turn, those people give to others and so on. The energy must flow continuously. If you refuse to accept it, it will simply by-pass you completely. This goes for accepting money for services rendered. Many of my fellow healers and psychics have been caught up in the idea that they should not charge for what they do. By doing that, they are, unconsciously, stopping the flow. There has to be an energy exchange. Before the advent of money, people bartered for what they needed. So what’s different now? Nothing. On an energy level, it’s exactly the same, we’re just using a different object to barter with. This level of energy bring us to


Taking Care Of Yourself and Others.

By taking care of your family, your pets, others in your life and yourself, you put out the energy of helpfulness, confidence and trust. Believe me, this energy gets returned to you many-fold. What’s the best way to take care of yourself and those around you? With Love. Love yourself. Love your family and friends. Love who you are and who they are. Love is by far the most powerful feeling/emotion/expression/energy there is. When you express Love, negativity and fear cannot stand against it. When you are using the energy of Love, you are taking care of yourself and everyone else with the highest vibration possible. From that energy, all things are possible. Along with this energy/emotion, include physical activity to maintain your body in good form.

To really have fun with this, feel the Love energy flow through you as you perform whatever activity you’ve chosen. Imagine feeling Love and gratitude while mowing the lawn, doing the dishes, playing a game of basketball or any other sport. Feel the Joy of the activity and how your body responds positively when you feel positive and joyful. Chores will never be dull and boring again! You will find renewed physical energy when you are coming from Love. Everyday projects become fun and inspiring. Your creativity will increase dramatically, because you are not coming from drudgery, resistance and fear. An added benefit I’ve seen many times over is that the “work” gets done much faster and much more efficiently. You also feel better before, during and after. This is a great way of taking care of yourself.

I hope you have found these methods helpful in creating a more spiritual, yet grounded life. Be sure to read my article on Grounding to get the technique for that down, and don’t hesitate to ask me any questions you may have in the comment section.

Blessed Be!

“Tolemac”

Staying Grounded and Centered.

Edited to included new information, which will be in italics

Considering the current state of affairs in this time frame of our world and evolution, I felt that it was necessary to give out the information below to as many people as possible so that there can be more of us who will be able to help others and respond to the growing darkness. Through the techniques I will impart, we can become a beacon of light and strength for those caught up in the tides of disaster. This is a guide to becoming and staying grounded, no matter what is happening around you. I will cover the reasons why staying grounded is necessary, how it works and the techniques involved.

Our human mechanism is both highly complicated and at the same time rather simplistic. One of the things that we have carried throughout our evolution is the “fight or flight” response. This is a very simple program that we use as a protection from everything fearful. One of the things that I have discovered through my training and while working with healing clients about this pattern is how the body responds. The “fight response” actually causes us to “stand our ground” while the “flight response” causes the exact opposite reaction. Not only do we attempt to flee the situation, but inside of ourselves, our “soul” begins to detach from our physical body. Whenever we are threatened, either physically or emotionally, our bodies’ primordial response is to presume that we are “dying”. With that response, our “soul” starts to detach further from our bodies even more than it already is. As the “soul” detaches, our bodies are further convinced that it is dying, and a vicious cycle is started.

Becoming and staying grounded prevents this response from moving us off our center. When you’re grounded, you’re calm, present and watchful. Data about any situation comes in more rapidly and is assessed at a much faster rate. Fear is greatly lessened and we become more deliberate in our actions. A grounded individual does not panic.

Look at any situation where there has been a traumatic experience taking place. There are always some people who make the right decisions and perform actions that are generally termed “heroic”. They are grounded and centered. Their “fight response” has kicked into high gear and they are totally in their bodies. Then there are those who practically jump out of their skin whenever anything unexpected happens. Those people are not anywhere near their bodies.

As a psychic healer, one of the first things I look at when working on a client is how far away they are from their body at a “soul” level, and how far out their auric field is. The further away their souls are from their physical bodies, the more prone they are to panic attacks, anxiety, excessive worry, fear, and a host of other complaints. The reason for this is simple. They are not in the “driver seat” and have little or no control over what is happening to them. By becoming grounded, you regain that control and the decision making process that goes along with it. You no longer have the background thought of “I’m dying!!” coming from your body, so your mind takes over and deals with the situation the best that it can.

So, how does this very simple act work? Basically speaking, it “ties” you to the earth. This brings your “soul” back into the your body where it belongs, and centers your feelings, mind and emotions. You become as a rock on all levels and you are unmovable unless you choose to do so. By way of an example, I’ll tell you about the time I demonstrated this for my good friend Sean and several other psychics while he and I worked on the psychic phone lines back in 1991. I was explaining to some of the people about how grounding makes you unmovable unless you want and choose to move and a few of them were skeptical, so I felt a display was in order. I sat on a chair and had the four largest guys stand all around me with their hands under the chair, and asked them to pick me up while I was grounded. They could barely lift the chair higher than a few inches. I then had them relax and I removed my grounding cord (without telling them I had done so) and had them try again. They practically threw me into the ceiling. I then explained that for the second attempt, I had un-grounded myself, and could they all now see the difference between being securely grounded to the earth and not grounded. They all agreed that being grounded was the better choice and had me teach them the same techniques I’m about to show you.

Ok, so now I’m sure some of you are saying, “Well, this sounds like it’s a great thing, but it must be hard to master”. Nothing could be further from the truth as grounding is not only easy; it is a very natural thing to do. Remember, when we go into “fight response” we are not just grounding ourselves, we are increasing and strengthening our grounding by several factors. So it is a completely natural state for us to be in, but due to the stresses and pressures of our society and lack of training in these areas, we’ve forgotten that we can do this and just how easy it is.

The first thing that you need to do is to become aware of your first chakra, also known as the root chakra. This is generally located just above the base of your tailbone. The first chakra houses all of our survival information. In your minds eye, see this chakra and sense it with your feelings. Now, create a cord or line of energy. The cord can be whatever you want it to look like. A rope, a waterfall, a pipe; you get the idea. It can also have any color you wish to give it. See this grounding cord as strong and unbreakable. Now see it securely attached to your first chakra. It doesn’t matter what symbol you use for your cord, and it doesn’t matter if you see it strongly or not at first. All that matters is your decision that it’s there.

Now that your grounding cord is firmly affixed to your root chakra, have it extend all the way down to the center of the earth. Again, the center of the earth can be whatever you wish it to look like. A ball of energy, a beautiful garden, molten rock; whatever is comfortable, symbolic and pleasing to you. Attach the other end of your grounding cord to the center of the earth. Congratulations, you are now grounded. See how easy that is? Some people report that they immediately feel the difference and can tell that they are grounded and in their bodies. Don’t worry if you are not one of them as it makes little difference if you can actually feel it or not at first, as it is working the moment you do this.

Along with grounding your body, this also grounds your body’s energy field as well. The second part of this technique, is to now ground your etheric field and your aura. Stuart was the one who taught me about the etheric field which surrounds us and that holds all of our “feelings”. Not our emotions, but our ability to “feel” what’s going on around us. So, visualize your etheric being around two inches at the most away from your body at any point. The reason for grounding your etheric energy, is so that it becomes easier to interpret and understand your feelings, and to keep it from being spastic. Once it’s nice a close around you, see your grounding cord strengthening and widening at your first chakra till it reaches the outside edge of your etheric, and ground it. Now we’re going to do the same with your aura. Most people’s auric field is so far away from their bodies that it practically goes down the block! This is quite typical, so there is no need for alarm. We tend to push our auras out to try and “protect” ourselves on an energy level. That said however, it is very impractical for our auras to be that far out. Let me explain. Even though our auras are an energy field, they have mass. As with anything that has mass, the farther out you stretch it, the thinner it gets. In the case of the aura, the thinner it gets, the easier it is for other energies to pass through it. The closer it is around your body, the stronger it is and it becomes less likely for outside energies to pass through it. Ever notice how tired you get just from walking from one end of the mall to the other? It’s not because it’s such a long walk. It’s because your aura was too far out and other people’s energy got mixed up with yours. Even though we are all human and have similar energy as humans, our energy is unique and individual to each of us just like a thumbprint, so we can really only use our own energy in and around our bodies.

Bringing in your aura is just as easy as grounding. First, be aware of how far out your aura is and then “tell it” to come in closer around you. I can already see the confused looks as you are reading this. “Tell my aura to come in closer??” Come now, you’ve just created a “grounding cord” with your imagination and visualization, so now simply do the same with your aura. It is yours, after all and you really do have full control of your own energy. A good distance is between 20 to 30 inches away from you at the most. Make sure that your aura is at that distance above you, below you, in front of you, behind you and to either side of you.

Most people have a tendency to forget about what’s behind them and below them, so pay extra attention to those areas. Once you’ve brought your aura in nice and tight, see your grounding cord strengthening and widening at your first chakra till it reaches the outside edge of your aura and then have it ground every layer of your aura (of which there are seven, in my teachings) to the center of the earth. Now we have to make sure that we are in the “driver seat” and in complete control. To do this is again quite simple. Take the first finger of either hand and place it just below the center of your forehead, just above your eyebrows. This is the “third eye” or sixth chakra point. With your other hand, place the first finger at the base of your skull where you’ll feel that bump is. It’s right at the place where the top of your neck meets the bottom of your skull. Keeping both fingers in place, close your eyes and imagine a line of energy drawn between your fingers. Got it? Ok, now place a finger at each temple on the sides of your head and draw another line. Do you see in your minds eye where these two lines intersect? That is the center of your head. This is a sacred space. It is your sacred space and no one else is allowed in there. In this space, create a room for yourself. Decorate it as you will, there is no right or wrong way to do this. I would suggest to you put in a favorite chair, as this is thedrivers seat“. Now in your minds eye, see yourself in that space. If there is anything, or anybody in there that shouldn’t be, then toss them, or it, down your grounding cord. Right about now is when I “set” my grounding cord on “release”. What this means is that I visualize myself as now allowing myself to release and let go of whatever I want to remove from my space, my energy and my life, down the grounding cord to the center of the earth where it is transmuted into neutral energy. So you can say something like “I now set my grounding on release. I am now releasing and letting go of all negativity, fear and doubt.” Use your own words to release whatever you want to let go of.

Ok, so now your body is grounded, your etheric and aura is in close and grounded so you’re maintaining your energy and keeping it clean; your grounding is set on release so all of the garbage is going away. Now, NOW you are grounded and centered. Now you are coming from a place of power and ability. Now you are in control of you and cannot be moved unless you choose to do so. From this space, all things are truly possible as you are able to look at them clearly and cleanly with zero interference. You’ll need to remind yourself to do this several times a day until it becomes a habit at first, but believe me, it really is easy and once you get into it, you will feel the difference between when you’re grounded and when you’re not. Another thing to remember is to really strengthen your grounding cord before you go into any known stressful situation, such as a meeting with someone not very pleasant, etc. Check your cord as often as you can remember and if it starts to look or feel a little ragged, that’s ok. Simply detach that one from your first chakra, let it fall to the center of the earth and create another one.

As more people learn of these techniques and use them not only will we be helping ourselves, but the planet and each other as well. Negative emotions and energy have no place to hold onto when we are grounded and centered. On the other hand, positive emotions and energy have a place to flourish and grow that is safe and secure.

May you all find the peace of mind, body and spirit that this practice can give you.

Brightest Blessings! Ross “Tolemac” Cotton – © March, 2006

Be sure to read my Advanced Grounding and Advanced Grounding 2 for more techniques.