Law of Attraction – Methods and Techniques: Part 3

In this last part, I want to talk with you about what I believe is the number one thing that you have to have, use, feel, and be if you truly want to manifest anything in your life. To this end, I want to tell you two stories about how I came to understand this particular idea that completely changed how I view, not only my life and how I live it, but everything.

To begin, I need to go back to 1973 when I was 15 years old, and had first developed my own metaphysical philosophy. I had just started exploring the writings of every known metaphysician of the time, and allowing myself to understand my abilities, even if I wasn’t “in control” of them as yet. While the majority of the books were beyond dull for the most part and written in stylistic language, I got the concepts of what they were saying. Combining that with the various ideas from the science fiction books I constantly read, I came up with my first true belief system. Others along the way have also written of this concept, but as far as I know I’m the only one who looks at it in this particular way.

My concept is simple. I think of Source Energy, The Divine, God, All That Is (what ever you choose to call it) as a diamond of infinite size with infinite facets. Each facet is a life, or life time. We look out through a facet and observe and experience “our life”. Because we are only looking through one facet, we are limited in what we can see and experience. By using metaphysical techniques such as meditation, we can actually turn our “mind’s eyes” inward and see that indeed, we are all one thing. That we are aspects of Source Energy, which is experiencing itself through our experiences.

For years, I thought that this philosophy was fairly complete and I didn’t see the need to add or subtract anything from it. Even the Native Americans had a saying for what I believed. The Lakotah say “Mitakuye Oyasin!” which means “We are all related”. And they mean related to everything. They pray to the animals, and the plants and the insects and stars and everything and call them “brothers” and “sisters”. I fell in love with the Lakotah way and incorporated their beliefs and teachings into my daily life. Then, a few months ago, everything changed.

I had an epiphany. I’m talking about one in the true dictionary definition of the word. Merriam-Webster’s third definiton is the one I mean:

3 a (1): a usually sudden manifestation or perception of the essential nature or meaning of something (2): an intuitive grasp of reality through something (as an event) usually simple and striking (3): an illuminating discovery, realization, or disclosure b: a revealing scene or moment

Indeed, this was something that was both simple and striking and it gave me an even deeper insight into the nature of everything. I was petting our cat Squeak; enjoying his company and the trilling sounds he makes when he’s really happy and being grateful for his presence, when words came to me that I had never spoken before. I looked at him and said, “Thank you for sharing your life with me.”

The energy and impact of those words reverberate through me to this day. Allowing myself the understanding and true meaning of that simple sentence changed how I perceived everything. It not only drove home in a much deeper way our connection to all things we consider “living”, but to ALL THINGS THAT ARE!

We use the term “inanimate” because to our eyes, certain objects are not moving. Physics says everything vibrates and moves, even if it takes sophisticated scientific equipment to see the actual vibration. You see, it’s always a question of our perspective. We tend to see and experience only what we allow ourselves to “see”. Once we let ourselves truly see, then we widen our perspective and can experience even more of this life.

This simple sentence allowed me to experience a sense of gratitude deeper than I’ve ever felt in my life. I became instantly aware of the living presence that is everything. I came to the realization that everything that is in my experience was sharing it’s experience and “life” with me. From the computer desk where I write this, to the newly sprouted weeds in the backyard, to everything you can name; it’s all sharing it’s life with me, right here, right now.

Since that day, I carry with me an immense feeling of deep gratitude for everything that is. I constantly say “thank you for sharing your life with me” to everything around me. I am so profoundly grateful for everything I am, everything I was, everything I will be and for everything I experience, whether that be an object, a person or a situation.

Once you start to incorporate this idea into your life, your perspective will change as well. How you perceive and experience everything will change. Once you come to the realization that this is the main thing that is happening all around us; that everything in our experience is sharing it’s life with you, your level of gratitude will absolutely soar! If you know this, feel this, BELIEVE this, everything else will fall into place. Even if you do nothing else in your life, this simple act will increase your abundance on all levels. By understanding that we are all here together; that there is no real separation; that everything is ONE! then you will have aligned yourself with Source Energy in such a powerful way that everything you want and desire cannot help but be made manifest in your experience.

This is, in my humble opinion, the most powerful thought, act, way of being that will improve every aspect of your life. By having this level of gratitude for all things in your life, you are in reality saying “I love you” to all that is. Nothing is more powerful than that. Nothing is more fulfilling than that. Nothing is more sacred than that.


Thank you for sharing your life with me.

I love you.

Ross – Tolemac

The Neutrality Of The Law Of Attraction

We all know how powerful the Law of Attraction is and we’ve either seen, heard or had our own experiences of it in wonderful, positive ways. What I want to do here is give you an example of how NOT to use the Law of Attraction, and to show you in no uncertain terms, that the Universal Law of Attraction is completely neutral. From what I have read and heard from many people, it seems to me that the predominant thought is that the Law is “good” by nature, and that by using it, only “good” can come from it.

While you can indeed bring positive things, people, events, etc. into your life, you can also bring in disaster just as easily. In fact, even more easily, for we are all trained to be in fear and to believe the “worst” will happen, instead of focusing on the “best” happening.

The incident I’m about to relate happened to me, so I know whereof I speak. I also know all too well just how fast the Universe can respond! Whether it’s positive intention and vibes you are putting out or negative ones, the Universe does not care. It simply responds to the energy of your intention.

My first true experience of this type of intending was done in a very negative fashion. I had gone to the Star Trek convention at the Ambassador Hotel in Los Angeles. When I got there, I saw that the parking was $5! This was in 1985, and that was a lot of money to shell out just for parking! So, I got mad (read: afraid) and said screw that, I’ll park on the street. So I went around to the main street behind the hotel, parked my car, got out and popped 2 quarters into the meter. Just as I was about to turn the corner to go into the hotel parking lot and to the convention entrance, I said to myself (in full arrogant voice) “I dare anyone to break into my car! Grrr!@$%!!”

I then went and enjoyed myself at the convention. When I went back to my car two hours later to put in a couple more quarters, you guessed it, the car had been broken into, and everything stolen. I was stunned. I thought I had put up a protection around it, but no. That was an illusion. I had put my fear around it and instead of protecting it, I manifested getting robbed.

Needless to say, I learned my lesson right then and there! This is also when I realized the Universe is not picky about what it sends. It doesn’t choose, it merely reflects our energy back to us. The more intense the energy, the faster it reflects it back.

In the movie “The Secret”, Joe Vitale called the Law of Attraction a catalog that you placed your order with. Years ago, my friend Stuart Wilde said think of it as a great storehouse with everything in it, and it’s just waiting for your order. When he said “everything” he meant EVERYTHING! Everything and anything you can think of is availble to us. Any object, experience, person, all of it. Your choice. You decide, and it’s delivered.

Obviously, on that day, I had chosen to have the Universe show me what attracting fear and arrogance will get me. I lost my guitar and amplifier, a 24″ master recording tape my friends and I had just finished recording, (those were in the trunk) the car stereo, and everything out of the glove box. It was devastating at the time, and it took a couple days of introspection to sort it all out. Once I did, it felt even worse, because I knew that I had brought it about.

So you see, the Law of Attraction is completely neutral. “It” doesn’t care. “It” is simply our energy reflected back to us. If you put out positive energy, that is strongly intended, you’ll receive positive energy and very quickly. If you put out positive energy, but your intention is weak or wishy-washy, then you’ll get a weak result. You would not believe how fierce I was that day, internally shouting at the world. That is another lesson I learned. If you are powerful in your intent, it’ll show up quicker. You decide what you want and how quickly you want it.

Another thing to remember is that you have to be specific! The Law is neutral, and it doesn’t read minds. You have to tell it exactly what you want. Stuart used to say, “If you just say you want new shoes, you’ll end up with size 18 pink and yellow clown shoes with fuschia polkadots!” Remember, specific is terrific. Don’t be vague about what you want. Write it down, read it over, change it as needed, edit it so that it’s WHAT YOU WANT! Now, you can project that image with strong intent out into the energy of the universe, and it will respond.

The Universe and the Law of Attraction are neither “good” or “bad”. They simply are. In being neutral, they allow us to evolve as we decide. So, when things are not showing up as you want them to, look at the level of your intention. Look at the level of how specific you were in what you want. Do not berate yourself for it not happening as you first envisioned, but instead, forgive yourself and adjust your energy and vision accordingly. The more you do this, and do it from the same neutrality that the Universe shows us, the better you’ll get at it.

Deep Peace to you all,