“Why do we do this to ourselves??”

The question is, “Why is it so easy to think negative thoughts? Why do we do this to ourselves?”

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The answer to the question is this: We’re trained to. Everyone around us shows us their negativity from the moment of conception. Some families more than others, but there are very few positive families, with positive outlooks and positive energy to give to their children. If we don’t get a lot of negativity at home, we surely get a ton of it at school, church, other relatives, etc. Simply being out in the world is a predominantly negative energy experience when you’re dealing with other people. Go into any store, someone will be be pissed off about something and exuding negative energy. Go to any restaurant, same thing. Someone will be showing their fear/anger.

The idea isn’t to stop them from having their experience or for you to nitpick over every negative thought and emotion. The idea is to have more positive and happy thoughts and feelings, than not. Forgive yourself when the negativity hits. If you can, find a way to laugh at the thought/feeling. Even if you can just say to yourself, “well that thought’s a bit silly, isn’t it”, it will help tremendously. When you get into “nitpick mode” and you’re constantly being vigilant, you’re deep in resistance. That just brings more negativity into your experience. Let it go as much as you can, by allowing it to be there, but not give it much, if any, attention. You’re never going to be in a place where you never have a negative thought or feeling, so let the idea of being positive all the time go. That keeps you stuck.

Soon, you’ll get to a place inside yourself where you’ll simply notice that your thoughts and feelings have gone a bit negative, and you’ll laugh and then change them. Even just laughing at the silliness of it will help change the energy immediately. If the thought and feeling are particularly intense, then you can look at it a little deeper and ask yourself what it is that you are afraid of in this moment. By stopping your thought process, and asking yourself that question, you pull yourself out of the fear. You can’t really feel fear when you’re in “query mode”. Your brain automatically goes off to find the answer to the question and forgets to be afraid. I do this with children when they’re crying. I don’t ask them why they are crying, but I ask them something completely unrelated, like “did you see that cat across the street”, or “what did you do in school today”. Anything to distract their minds from whatever is causing them to cry. Then, you can find out what they are upset about. Same with us adults. Give the mind something to do, and it will forget the fear in that moment, and that’s all you need to begin to shift the energy.

Do this along with staying grounded, and you’ll see pretty quickly just how easy it actually is to stay more positive about everything in your life. =)

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Bright Blessings,

Ross – “Tolemac”

Processing Fear Easily – Stuart Wilde

I am reprinting this article from Stuart’s blog for 2 reasons. One, now that he is no longer posting there, I want to share this in case the blog closes down, and two, because this is one of the very best articles on dealing with fear. Enjoy!

One of my readers told me the most impacting thing he read in my books was where I said, “Refuse to be scared in this lifetime”.

Fear is a terrible affliction, it cripples your ability to think clearly and act decisively. Some low-level fear is ok, it acts as a warning signal but constant fear turns one into a zombie, an automaton easily manipulated. Here’s how you fix it.
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All fear comes from loss or the perception in the mind of a possible loss: fear of change (loss of the status quo), fear of a loss of health, fear of a loss of money, loss of a relationship, loss of status/importance, loss of control etc. The ego reacts to loss usually with anger. If that emotion is very strong it collapses the holographic fields around you putting you in a tight tube, it’s not good.

First, realize most of the stuff you were scared of in this life never came to anything. Second, change is often a gift; so your husband ran away with Darlene from the Dog and Duck, it was a shock, you got angry then a month later you realize what gift it was, you felt free for the first time in years, your soul was liberated. Yippee!

Change is fine never resist it. Keep telling yourself change is normal.

In my books I say “Be nothing” it’s the antithesis of the New Age teachers that say struggle to become something. But if you can realize your presence on earth is irrelevant, it frees you from the ego-prison of specialness, and the effort involved in holding up all your illusions. Your illusions often scare you.

You don’t need much to survive and be happy, a roof over your head, some warm clothes, love, friendship, food. A friend of mine only eats at night and he has three or four table spoons of food on his plate nothing more. No desert, no seconds, no piling the food high, no snacks during the day, he has lived like this for years. Four spoons of food are less than a dollar a day.

Most of the stuff you think you need you don’t actually need. Downsizing is calming, consumption sometimes creates fear. Transcending not trans-spending, that’s the way.
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If you worry about your health take action, improve your life style, reduce stress, the more alkaline and calm you become the more healthy you are. If you are over weight fix it now—fat inhibits blood into your cells and so it inhibits oxygen—fat and fear are very closely linked, most people don’t know that. A meat diet will make you scared as you ingest the animal’s fear—their torment. Try to be a vegetarian, if not already so.

Keep your water intake up at all times, when you get dehydrated fear will creep in. Sometimes you need two lethicin tablets a day with your water that helps carry the liquid into you cells. Try to sleep properly and not drink coffee beyond mid-afternoon.
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Stay away from people that have scary energies and stay away from dangerous places, like the red-light district say, where the black fractal codes people emit can jump on your crown chakra and carry you down. Stay away from pot and porno as it brings in the ghouls and avoid people that suck energy and drain you.

Fix interpersonal problems, make peace. Usually it will cost you, but often it’s best to pay the rip off and get free. Humans emit a black fog or mist that I named the ‘black attention’, the less of that you have around you the better it is.

I evoke the black attention deliberately, it’s part of my job getting the ghouls to chase me. That is why I drop m’ pants when I see the UFOs, and show em m’ lilywhite ass. But most people need as little of the black attention as possible.
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Blow love at all the antagonistic people in your life and blow love in the street when you pass someone that is devilish or angry. Don’t stand next to that sort of person on the bus going to work. Take constant evasive action. Make that part of your modus operandi.

Pray for help, often it comes as an energy burst of light from the inner worlds that makes you feel better. If you are depressed take 5HTP, it fixes the serotonin levels in your brain. Try to mediate every day at the same time for twenty-four minutes, it builds a deep calm.

Try to spend a little time in nature every day with the tress, even if it is only ten minutes. They process fear for you and offer a celestial peace. Put your crown chakra against the trunk of a tree for a minute or so, that allows you to enter a special world. It helps.

Try to stay legal as best as possible as it can wreck your energy if you are doing stuff that is illegal, or if your paperwork is not in order. The fascist state is all around us and it’s getting worse—their world is dying—they will become ever more ugly, stay under the radar.

Be nobody, be humble, it’s safer. I often shuffle about dressed in scruffy clothes when I need to get in and out of dodgy places frequented by the criminal classes, melting into the scenery is an art form. ‘Smiley country’ if you know what that means.

Lean towards love at all times, cut people slack, forgive and forget, and be kind, very kind, the more you do that the less fear you will have. People rise up to support you. Refuse to be scared in this lifetime. Okay bye for now. (sw)


The only things I will add here are, primarily, to be really easy on yourself about this at first. We’ve all been programmed to be afraid from day one, so it’ll take some time to let that go. One of the best things you can do to help yourself with this is to learn how to ground yourself everyday and to consider getting an energy healing to help you clear out everyone else’s negativity.

Bright Blessings =)

Ross – “Tolemac”

Welcome to the Second Level: Part 2

In this second part, I want to talk with you about the duality of the two main emotions of this life.

Love and Fear.

These two emotions are the driving force behind everything that we do in this existence. Being emotion based entities living in a duality based system, we have to deal with these two in every aspect of our lives. I call these the “main emotions” because all other emotions spring from them. There is not a single positive emotion that does not come from Love and conversely, there is not a single negative emotion that does not come from Fear.

Think about it. If you examine all emotions and go down to their essence, you’ll find one of these main emotions at it’s core. This may sound simplistic, but by simplifying our emotions down to their core, they actually become easier to deal with. So what is the core of these main emotions? Let’s take a look…

The Core Of Fear

Fear. The morass from which all negative emotions emerge. The main emotion that when we experience it brings us emptiness. Destroys us. Drags us down into the deepest pits of hell. When you think of Fear, what comes up for you? The fear you have for the safety of yourself and those around you? Anger, Rage, Depression?  What do you feel when you feel Fear? What is the truth behind that feeling? If you allow yourself to fully delve into the emotion, no matter what triggered it, you’ll find one thing.

Loss.

Separation.

Fragmentation.

It is this belief in Loss that causes all Fear.

As I explained in my Staying Grounded post, Fear creates inside of us the feeling that we are dying. This is the ultimate loss. The loss of our life. Even though we may be afraid of relatively and comparatively simple things, such as whether or not we’ll be late for an appointment, it still feels like death and dying to our basic selves. Fear causes us to also lose perspective. Without perspective, our rational minds go right out the window.

Frank Herbert, in his epic work Dune, said it best when he wrote the Litany Against Fear, part of which states: “Fear is the mind killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration.” I have yet to hear it said better. Fear does indeed kill our minds and way too often actually leads to death. So how do we deal with this fear? How do we look it in the eye and disregard the message it’s sending to us?

Letting Go Of Fear

One way to remove fear from your life is to first remember the main acronym associated with FEAR:

False Evidence Appearing Real

Basically this asks you to remember that 99.9% of the fear we experience is not real. Our lives are not in danger, but we are perceiving them as such. Look directly at what is causing you to feel this fear and ask yourself two things. First, are you in real danger? Probably not, so your life is not really being threatened. The second question, and in my mind the more important of the two as it will help you to get straight to the truth, is to ask yourself what are you losing? You’re feeling afraid, so you must feel like you are losing something. Once you ask yourself that and can answer it honestly, you’ll see that 100% of the time, you are “losing” nothing. That’s the false evidence appearing real.

In my experience, people only feel fear because they have a belief in their separateness from the Source of all things. Label it however you will, the fact remains that if you believe you’re separate from this source, you also have a belief in fear. If you are not separate and feel only oneness, then there is no room or capacity for fear in your life, because there is nothing you can lose.

There are any number of things you can do to keep fear out of your life. You can recite the complete Litany Against Fear:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

You can understand that the fear is not real and move it out of your body and energy and have it go down your grounding cord. You can be completely honest with yourself. This helps tremendously, as there is no falsehood in you. If there’s nothing false, then you can look at outside “appearances”  much more cleanly and see them for what they really are. Meditating is another excellent way of clearing this emotion. You have probably been introduced to other ways of releasing and letting go of fear. Incorporate those that work for you and that you feel comfortable doing.

Lastly, remember that all “low energy” or “negative” emotions are varying degrees of fear of loss. By looking at your emotions as neutrally as possible and asking yourself why you’re feeling this way, you can start to let go of the fear and to let go of the rest of the negative emotions, especially when you see that they do not serve you at all.

 

The Core Of Love

Love. The fount from whence all positive emotions flow. The main emotion that when we experience it fills us. Enlightens us. Lifts us to heights barely imaginable. When you think of Love, what comes up for you? The love you have for your mate? Your child? Your family? A pet? Happiness, Joy, Contentment? Peace, Abundance, Self-Fulfillment? What do you feel when you feel Love? What is the truth behind that feeling? If you allow yourself to fully delve into the emotion, no matter what triggered it, you’ll find one thing.

Oneness.

Connectedness.

Wholeness.

It is this Oneness that we seek at every level of our being.

Filling Ourselves With Love

When we come from Oneness to Source, all things are possible. Knowing and truly believing that we are completely a part of all that is, gives us the connection and wholeness we crave. Again, meditating, staying grounded and being honest with ourselves, are great ways to help keep the positive emotions and energy flowing. Being grateful, expressing that gratitude, and giving thanks for what you are and where you find yourself definitely keeps the love vibe going strong. It’s impossible to feel anything but love when you are expressing your gratitude and thanks.

The quote “Laughter is the best medicine” is absolutely true. When you are laughing, most of the time, it’s because you are enjoying life and you are expressing that enjoyment. There is no room for fear or any negative emotions while laughing. Laughter pre-dates language and is another way that we relate, share and understand our Oneness with each other and this world.

Listening to music that inspires us and gives us those good feelings is another excellent way to change your mood to one of love and compassion. The same is true for watching movies or tv shows that uplift us, and shows us positive imagery.

Go out into the natural world as often as you can. Look around you. At the trees, the grass, the sky, the stars at night, the sand at a lake or beach, the water, the animals. Be calm and still and feel the energy surrounding you. By being in Nature, feeling and sensing the vastness, timelessness and abundance, you immediately start to feel that Oneness. You can start to feel the connection to all things.

I’m certain that you either have or can create many other ways to find and fill yourself with the energy of Love. Be sure to take time each day to feel it and appreciate it. The more you do so, the less any negative emotion will be able to hold sway over you. The more you will enjoy this life and everything in it. The Lakota people say in their language, Mitakuye Oyasin! which means “we are all related”, and so it is.

Brightest Blessings!

“Tolemac”