Advanced Grounding Techniques – Part 2

Hello everyone. Today I want to give you another Advanced Grounding Technique that I have seen help countless clients, family and friends to reduce their fear, stress and anxiety levels dramatically.

If you have not read my previous posts on grounding, be sure to read them first so that you are familiar with the terms and main techniques. You can find the first one here: Staying Grounded… and the second one here: Advanced Grounding Techniques Once you’ve gotten the previous techniques down, then come back to this post.

Ok, so you have your body, chakras and aura grounded. You’re in your place of power in the center of your head, and you’re relaxed and calm. Now is a great time to use the next technique. This one involves your negative emotions and the pictures in your memory that causes those emotions to come up. Whenever we think about a past experience, whether positive or negative, the first thing that happens is we “see” a picture of the event in our mind’s eye. Then, based on our feelings and the experience we had at that time, we then express an emotion about that picture.

Everyone does this, and we do it all the time. There is not any time when we do not feel an emotion about a past experience, unless you have really trained yourself to be in neutrality, and you are able to look at your life experiences from that neutral space. Suffice it to say that the majority of people have not trained themselves in that fashion, so they are indeed feeling an emotion about their past. Ok, so you think of a past experience and have an emotion about it. The question then becomes, “How does this effect me?”

You have all had the experience of thinking about a memory that was not pleasant and then having negative emotions come up about that experience. For some, these emotions can become overwhelming due to the nature of the memory and what took place. I have helped many people that suffer panic/anxiety attacks and found that they all are going through this process in an extreme way. Something triggers a memory of a “bad time” and they go into panic mode. As anyone who has suffered such an attack can tell you, it’s completely debilitating. Most people practically freeze in place; their bodies are completely overwhelmed by the fear emotion and they cannot hardly breathe, much less move.

The Technique

As with anything in life, each of us feels these things to varying degrees, but the main point is that the negative emotions do not feel good. You can change that now, by utilizing this process and letting those fear based emotions go. Just like I talked about in the first Advanced Grounding Techniques post, you can give a grounding cord to basically anything, as we are dealing with energy, and energy can be manipulated to work for you on any level. This technique is just as easy and simple as the others are. When you remember something that causes you to feel a negative emotion, see in your minds eye the picture that is there and give that picture it’s own grounding cord. Once you’ve set up the cord to the center of the earth, set it on release and see all the negative emotions associated with that picture being released down the cord.

While this is happening, forgive yourself for whatever brought that memory up to your consciousness; also forgive yourself for the original situation you found yourself in. Be thankful and grateful for what the experience taught you, and let it go with love and peace. Remember, there really are only two emotions. At any given time, you are either feeling love or fear. All the emotions we have labels for fit into one of those two main categories. As Abraham says, you really only have two choices: To feel better or to feel worse.

Depending on how intense the feeling is for the particular memory you’re reviewing, you may feel immediate relief on a huge level, or you may just feel calmer than you did when the memory came up. There is no right or wrong way to feel when you do this. Any relief is a good thing. For most situations, you may only need to ground the picture one time to let the negative energy go. If you have a greater attachment to the memory, it may require a few times to get it to the point where you don’t have the negative emotions bombard you whenever you think about that picture.

By doing this process when you are in a calm, relaxed state to begin with, you can let go a lot more as there is little to no resistance inside yourself. You can also do this “on the fly”, as it were, when something comes up for you. Find a place where you can sit down for a few minutes and ground yourself and the picture the best you can. Get as centered as possible and try to allow the release to happen. Don’t worry if you don’t feel like you were able to ground it when the emotion first hits if you are not in a place to do so comfortably. Just tell the emotion that you’ll deal with it later. I’ve seen that work amazingly well on many occasions. Once you are in your safe environment, no matter where that is, go through the process as I’ve laid it out and re-set a new grounding cord on that picture.

The more you practice these techniques, the better you will feel overall. By the very act of consciously letting go of the negative emotions, forgiving yourself and being at peace with what was, you are telling yourself that you want to feel more good emotions in your life. Because that becomes your predominant thought and feeling, you bring to yourself better feeling thoughts and experiences. As you do that, you will find that you can accomplish more in, and with, your life.

Please leave a comment to let us know your experiences with this or if you have any questions.

Deep Peace,

Ross – “Tolemac”

“Deep Cleansing Breaths” Releasing Method

I thought this would be an appropriate day and time in our lives, and in our history, to share this particular method of release, seeing as we all have much to release and let go of, individually and as a people.

Today I am going to talk with you about a releasing method that is quick, easy and can be done practically anywhere. What are you going to release? Whatever you want to, basically. Definitely whatever no longer serves you. Only you can make that decision, so I’m going to keep it general in that department. This method can be done standing or seated, whichever is most comfortable for you, and either inside or outside. Whereever and whenever you can do this is good as long as you have about 2 to 5 minutes to yourself. Yes, it’s that quick. 😉

You begin by closing your eyes and as neutrally as possible, look at the emotion or situation you want to release. If you are sitting, sit with your arms on your legs, palms up. If you are standing, start with your arms loosely at your sides.

Now, breathe in deeply, easily and slowly through your nose. As you fill your lungs up with life giving air, say this Stuart Wilde affirmation to yourself:

“I am the power. I pull from within me the energy I need to go beyond my challenges.”

Visualize your inner energy rising up within you as you breathe in and say the affirmation. See it filling your entire being with positivity and light. At the top of the breath, hold it for just a moment, then again slowly and easily, let your breath out through your mouth and say my release affirmation to yourself:

“I now lovingly release and let go of (insert what you wish to release) cleanly and easily.”

As you let your breath out, see whatever it is that you are releasing as going down your grounding cord, all the way to the center of the Earth. At the bottom of the breath, hold it for just a moment and then begin the process again. Do this three times and then relax and breathe normally for a moment or two.

This is when I incorporate an EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tap to help your body release even deeper. With the first three fingers of your dominant hand and using the finger tips, tap what’s called the “karate chop” point (it’s on the outside of your hand, just below the last pinkie knuckle) on your other hand, while saying the following:

“Even though I’m feeling (insert how you feel about the situation, or whatever the emotion that you want to release), I deeply and completely love and forgive myself.”

Do this three times as well and continue to tap as you say it. You don’t need to tap fast, or hard; a steady rhythm works best. Once you’ve completed this three times, again, just relax and breathe easy. If you have the time and really want to let go, then do this whole process three times in one session. So that would be Breathing – Tapping – Breathing – Tapping – Breathing – Tapping.

The power of doing things three times is an ancient magical practice. One of the old magic sayings was “Thrice spoken, Once fulfilled”.

By using this releasing method, you are consciously letting go emotionally, mentally and physically of those things that no longer serve you or work for you at this time. I hope you find this method as easy to use as I do, and please let me know if you have any questions about it.

Brightest Blessings to you all on this historic day!

Ross – “Tolemac”

Welcome To The Second Level: Part 1

So, what do I mean when I say “Second Level”? In my view, we live in a dimension where we have to deal with “duality” in every aspect of our lives. Numerologically speaking, this duality is represented by the number two, hence the term “Second Level”.

Duality is the prime mover of this particular existence. Up or down, in or out, good or bad, male or female, etc. We are in a constant state of choice and choosing. This can, and does, lead some people into another state: Confusion. This is caused by one thing and one thing only. Asking questions. “What do I do?” “Which way should I go?” “How will this turn out?” So should we stop asking questions? Not at all. If we did that, nothing would get accomplished. Questions and questioning, for the most part, are necessary and valid to go through this life. Certain things require answers and if you don’t ask, you’ll never find out. That said, some things that we as humans question puts us immediately into the confused state. It’s not the questioning itself, as it is the actual question; where we are asking it from and how we ask it. 

Through my various metaphysical trainings and my work as a healer, I’ve found that there are two things (duality strikes again) that will help you to eliminate this confusion. Once you understand both of these concepts, you can live a more confusion-free life.

Stop Asking Questions

Again, I don’t mean you need to stop asking mundane, everyday informational questions (“What time is the meeting?”), but it will serve you greatly if you can stop asking “emotional” questions. These questions are almost always based in some form of fear, and because we “don’t know” the answer, we get confused, which leads to worry, which leads to fearfulness and even panic in extreme cases.  If you can clear your mind of the emotion around the questions and not ask them from an emotional base, but instead ask them from spirit, or your higher consciousness, you’ll be surprised at how easily the answers actually come to you. By pulling the emotion out of the question, you are eliminating the possibility of fear overriding you and throwing you into confusion.

There Are Only Two Things That Are Going To Happen…

More Duality! One of the many lessons that my teacher, mentor, and friend Stuart Wilde taught me was that there are only “two things” that will ever happen in any situation, no matter what that situation is: It either will, or it won’t. At first blush, this sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people hear that, and go “Oh! I get it now.” Some people don’t require an explanation, while others will ask “What the hell does that mean?”

Here then is the explanation of what it all means. The basic statement is based on observed behaviour. No matter what or who is involved in any given situation, they/ it/ him/ her/ whatever, either “will” or they “will not”. She will either marry him, or not. They will either give you the job, or not. Again, on the emotional side of this, you have worry, and alot of fear. Thoughts like “Oh my God, I don’t know!” “How will they react?” “What will they do??” This worry causes a great deal of stress that is unnecessary. We spend an amazing amount of time in our lives “worrying”, especially about these types of questions.

One of the biggest games we humans play against ourselves is the “what if” game. People have literally driven themselves over the edge playing this one. It’s the idea of not knowing that causes such pain and anxiety. The thing is, we do know. The time spent worrying can most definitely be put to better use. So by stopping yourself when you feel the confusion coming on, getting grounded, and really thinking about it calmly and remembering that there are ony two things that can happen, you can now begin to release the need to worry about it. We can now step away from the “fear” of not knowing and look at each situation and instead of freaking out, we can prepare for either outcome. Once you’ve gotten it into your psyche that only two things can happen, the stress and the worry can be removed, and you’ll stay more grounded and centered.

So, the next time you feel yourself getting into a panic because you don’t know what’s going to happen in a given situation, just remember to ask the question from your spiritual center and not from your emotions, and to remember that it either will, or it won’t. 😉

In my next post, I want to talk with you more about duality. In particular, about the two main emotions of this life.

Till then, deep peace to you.

“Tolemac”