The Law Of Attraction and Wishful Thinking

Ever since the movie The Secret came out, I have read over and over again from many and varied sources how the Law of Attraction is merely “wishful thinking” and that it doesn’t really work the way that it is portrayed in any of the movies, books, recordings, etc. written about it.

I have even seen some people, who are otherwise huge new age and metaphysical proponents, completely bash LOA as being nothing more than delusional and wishful thinking. When asked by others why doesn’t it work the way it’s advertized to work, the ones against it say things like “it just doesn’t” or “it can’t work like that”, and “that’s just wishful thinking” and “it’s pseudoscience”.

You're kidding me, right??

The thing is that they are under the mistaken impression that all you have to do is “think about what you want and it materializes”. They believe that LOA is somehow “magic” and that those who are espousing it are claiming magical properties for it. Well, no that’s not how it works, and it’s not how anyone I’ve seen talking or writing about it has protrayed it. I read one post where the poster was sighting the story in The Secret about the young boy who “wished” for a new bike and got it. The thing is, he didn’t just “wish” for it. He visualized it. He saw it as his. He drew a picture of himself with the bike. All of these things are in fact just one thing. That thing is taking action.

In his book, “Affirmations”, Stuart Wilde talks about this very thing.


He gives an example of a young woman who dreams of being a successful Hollywood actress, yet all of her affirmations aren’t going to get her there as long as she’s still living in Kansas. He says you have to take action. You have to be emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually in a place that is as conducive as possible to achieve your desires. You see, the Universe responds whether you believe it does or not, but you will only get positive results if you believe in yourself. When you believe in yourself, you automatically put yourself in the right places at the right times. If you don’t believe in yourself, then your results are not going to turn out as you want them to.

I think, therefore, I am. I think.

Way too often we do not believe in ourselves. We’ve been conditioned all our lives that we can’t just have what we want. That we have to struggle and slog and “work hard” to achieve anything. Usually then and only then do we give ourselves permission to have what we want. Then we use terms like “I earned it” or “I worked hard for this” and because we’ve got everyone else and our egos tellings us that’s the only way to get anything, we believe it. On top of that, if we see someone else getting something that they want without any struggle or years of labor, we think they must have cheated, or that they were somehow “lucky”.

Nonsense. Utter and complete nonsense, yet we do this to ourselves our whole lives. Ask anyone who has achieved any level of greatness in most any endeavor and they’ll all basically say the same thing. They made their own luck. They had a desire, and used their imagination and thoughts and will to bring it about. However, most people don’t want to hear that because, and this is where it starts to border on insanity, that requires work and effort.

Wait… what? Didn’t they just say that it requires work and effort and struggle to achieve anything? Now, when given a sure fire recipe to achieve what they want with a minimum of effort, they say “that takes too much work.” I’ve even read several posts where people actually argue that the things they have achieved in this life was done without using their thoughts or imagination at all. Ok, let’s leave imagination out of it for a moment, and just deal with the thoughts/thinking part. To say that you achieved anything and that you didn’t use your “thoughts” to get you there, is ludicrous in the extreme. Of course you used your thoughts. Your thoughts are what brought the idea to you in the first place. You “think” things like “Hey, that person has a car, and I’d like a car of my own. Hmm, wonder how I get a car. Well, I’ll have to get some money, which means getting a job, or borrowing it, and then once I’ve gotten enough money, I’ll have to go to the dealership and figure out which one I want, and then I’ll have to think about getting insurance for it and maybe a maintainence plan and….”

Hey, wait a minute. That’s an awful lot of thoughts and thinking going on here. And that’s just for one small example. To say or even (if you’ll pardon the pun) “think” that your thinking is not involved in the creation process is just a bit on the nutty side of things.

“One mans magic is another mans engineering” – Robert Heinlein

This is the main point of this post really. There is no “magic” involved with the Law of Attraction. It’s not fairyland dreaming, or pixie dust apparitions. It is what it is. A power that works all the time, every time, for everyone. Until scientists figured out how to actually harness and use electricity, the idea of it was considered magic. Even after it was harnessed, and the first light bulb was shown to the world, people still believed it was magic, and some of them said it was evil, because it wasn’t “natural”. Yet, it didn’t matter what anyone thought or believed about electricty, because it was always there, waiting to be “discovered”. It’s no different with the Law of Attraction.

Does it matter where it comes from or how it does what it does? No, it doesn’t. The bottom line is that, just like with electricity, you either use it to your advantage, or you don’t. It’s up to you to decide how you want to live your life. On your own terms, or at the whim of “chance” and “fate”.

May you choose wisely.

In my next post, I’m going to talk about the various necessary methods and steps that will help us in achieving all that we want.

Deep Peace.

Ross – “Tolemac”

The Money Flow Stream

I’ve got another Prosperity Tool for you that goes right along with the Prosperity Gauge I posted on Feb. 5th.

Back in ’89, I had the priviledge of going through Stuart Wilde’s “Warriors Wisdom” 5 day Intensive training seminars, and then a year later working as staff for him at four more “WW”s. One of the training days was dedicated to Finance on all sorts of different levels. One of the things that Stuart mentioned on one of these finance days, was that we are surrounded by the energy of money flowing all around us, but we’re not aware of it or thinking about it. He said, “Think of all the billions of dollars that are flowing through the ethers this very second in the form of electronic transfers from bank to bank.”

We were stunned! He was right. Not one of the participants and staff had thought about it in those terms. It was definitely an eye opener. Think about this on a practical level, and you can really see how this can have a major impact on your personal prosperity and how you think about abundance. If I tell you to look at the abundance of the Universe, the multitude of stars, the leaves on a tree, the sand on any beach, you can easily see these things and recognize the inherent abundance around us all, but does it reach you on a practical level? Psychologically speaking, how much sand or leaves or stars do you need in your daily life? Yes, you “get it” but what have you got?

What Have You Got?

I started looking at this a few years ago while in meditation, and asking that very question. “What have I got?” When I think about the vast abundance of the Universe, I have the concept down pat! Now I need it to become practical. So, I went back over my various trainings and teachings and came back to a process Stuart had taught where you use your etheric energy and your visualization to bring you what you want. Here now is the technique I came up with that will help you bring that money energy into practical terms that you can literally “grasp” with both hands, if you like.

To begin, get yourself seated in a comfortable position with your arms resting on your thighs, with your palms face up. Follow my grounding techniques so you are grounded and in the center of your head, with your aura nice and close around you. Now, with your eyes closed, begin to sense the Money Flow Stream that is all around you. See if it has a color, or a shape, or a sound. It doesn’t have to have any of those things, but for some people, it helps them visualize. Is it an energy blob, or a mist? Maybe a ray of light. For me, I see it as a sort of two lane highway just above me and slightly to my left. I see the money energy flowing back and forth, probably because that’s what it’s doing in reality, as it goes from bank to bank all over the world.

One thing that will help you to see it clearly is to think of a one hundred dollar bill. The one with Ben Franklin on it. Here, here’s a picture of one:

One Hundred Dollar Bill

Now see hundreds and thousands and millions of these one hundred dollar bills moving through the Money Flow Stream. I want you to see only hundred dollar bills, as that is the highest currency available in bill form (in the US, anyway. Please use the highest currency bill for your country) and I feel there’s no need to “look at” anything smaller. However they appear to be in the stream doesn’t really matter. They can be swirling around, they can be moving along the stream like I see them, flowing in two “lanes”, whatever works for you. Once you’ve got a clear vision of them, now we can move onto the fun part.

Etheric Maneuvers In The Dark

What I’m going to show you now is something that Stuart calls an “etheric exercise”. The etheric is the strong force energy that is very close to our bodies, at around an inch or less, around all parts of our physical selves. Now that you have a good visualization of the Money Flow Stream, imagine your “receiving hand”. This is your non-dominant hand, so if you’re right handed, this will be your left hand. The non-dominant side of you is the receptive, or in-flowing side, while the dominant side is the giving, or out-flowing side. See the etheric energy of this hand in your minds eye start to rise from off your leg. See that energy stretch up and into the Flow Stream. Once your “hand” has merged into the Flow Stream energy, make a slight cup with this “hand”, and begin to see the one hundred dollar bills hitting your cupped “hand” and flowing down your etheric arm, and into your body. Hold this position until you have “received” the amount of hundred dollar bills you want. If, for instance, you want to receive $5,000, then visualize 50 hundred dollar bills going down your etheric arm.

Once the amount you want has flowed into you, bring your etheric arm back down and into your physical arm. Take a couple of deep breaths and open your eyes. Say a prayer of gratitude for what you’ve just received, then stand up and stretch. One quick note about breathing here. When doing any of these techniques, I recommend breathing into your belly through your nose, nice and easy and out through your mouth, just as easy. Using this technique after you’ve done your Prosperity Gauge, and the Energy Perception method I wrote about, will really multiply your level of abundance and prosperity.

Please let me know how this works for you and if you have any questions about the technique.

Blessings of Wealth and Good Fortune to you!

Ross – “Tolemac”

Advanced Grounding Techniques

Now that you are, hopefully, using the Prosperity Tool, I feel it’s time to talk with you about some more advanced grounding techniques. Again, if you haven’t read my post on grounding, I suggest that you read that first to get familiar with the basic idea and technique, so that you’ll understand what I’m talking about here.

In the Prosperity Tool post, I showed you how to ground your prosperity gauge, so that you can release any energy that is not yours from it, thereby increasing your personal level of prosperity, abundance and allowing. So, the question I get from most of my healing clients at this point is, “What else can I give a grounding cord to?” The answer is simple: Everything.

Everything can be grounded

On a daily basis, I ground my home, my computer, my car, the road I’m travelling; just to name a few of the regular ones. Because I’ve been doing this for 18 years, it’s become totally second nature for me to give items and people a grounding cord without any effort or thought. It didn’t take all 18 years to get to this level, believe me. It did take about 6 months of daily practice to get to the point where it became part of who and what I am, and since then the visualization of a grounding cord takes me about 2 seconds.

The next question I get asked is usually, “Why ground all these different things?” Well, the answer varies depending on what it is that you want to give a grounding cord to. I do this for my car, to keep everyone elses energy off of it, especially their “traffic paranoia” so that I’m not caught up in their accident patterns. I do the same thing on the road I’m travelling, to keep it clear of accidents ahead of me, and to help move the traffic along. For “road grounding”, visualize the road you are going to be on from your starting point to well past your destination, and give that entire stretch it’s own cord. This doesn’t take more than a couple of moments, and you can use a map if you’re not familiar with the route you’ll be on.

Grounding others and Non-infringement

This works wonders on crying babies. I get the most amazing looks and smiles from them. They’re so close to the Infinite energy that they just came from, and recognize when someone is there to help. I give them a cord and a psychic “hello” and they just giggle away. This has the same effect on barking dogs, though most animals are very well grounded on their own. It helps to eliminate the “owners” fear energy and gives the dog the opportunity to assess the situation from it’s own natural perspective, instead of through their “owners” stuff. Again, I get great looks from the dogs, as they see me with their own energy, usually followed by wagging tails and lolling tongues, wondering if I have a treat for them.

One thing I will say here, is that when I give a cord to a person, no matter what age, I ask them psychically for permission first. 99% of the time, this is greeted with a resounding “PLEASE!!” and I proceed. There is that 1% where I’ve gotten a “no thank you”, and left it at that. Non-infringement is mandatory here and it’s one of the tenets that Stuart Wilde was really adamant about in our training. Your offer of help and assistance is all you can really do. If they accept, then do what you can. If they reject it, then simply walk away. Remember, the key is being in neutrality and warm compassion for the person and the situation they find themselves in. There’s no judgement, and there’s no thought of trying to “save them”. That’s the ego talking, and it’ll get you into a ton of trouble if that’s the energy level you come from.

Advanced Techniques for Yourself

Now I want to tell you about some advanced techniques that you use on yourself. In my first grounding post, I showed you how to ground yourself at your first chakra. Along with grounding your root chakra and aura, you can also ground the rest of your chakras as well. Once you are at that place where you’ve set up your personal grounding cord, in your mind’s eye see it move up the interior of your body and have it attach to each chakra as it moves up. This is a powerful feeling. Having all of your chakras grounded at the same time allows you to release just that much faster.

Along with your chakras, you can also give your reproductive organs a grounding cord, and see it connecting from those organs to your main cord. This helps to relieve blocked energy and tension from those areas, and to get your female or male energy moving freely. Because we are sexually excited at all times, by our thoughts, the images we see everywhere, and the conversations we have or hear, this really brings an amazing amount of relief. Women, in particular, note how much better they feel when they use this technique on themselves. Considering the amount of sexual energy that is projected on women on a daily basis, this is not a surprise at all.

A grounded home, is a happy home

Giving your home it’s own grounding cord will not only help you, but anyone who lives in the same house. Along with doing the psychic healing with people, I have done a lot of home and office clearing through the years as well, and this is the first thing I do in that process. Simply locate the basic center of the space you want to ground, and place a cord there. If it’s your home, you can create one main cord in the center, and then have separate cords for each room, all connecting to the main one. I also ground my bed along with my bedroom. You are sleeping on it for 6 to 8 hours each night after all, and by grounding it and cleaning up the energy, you’ll get a better nights sleep.

If you work in an office type environment, give the building a main cord, and each office that you work in, or have to be in, it’s own cord that merges with the main one. I’d also have you ground your desk, chair and computer. I’ve done this for clients and have had them report back to me that their computer was the only one that didn’t get a virus that was going around the office, even though they were on the same network as everyone else. Nice.

As you can see, there are endless possibilities here. Look at the different aspects that you interact with in your life, and see what you think can benefit from having a grounding cord attached to it. Post your comments and tell us what you’ve grounded and how the energy changed. I’d love to hear your experiences and to answer any questions you have about this fun, easy and excellent process.

Bright Blessings!

Ross – “Tolemac”

Be sure to read my Advanced Grounding 2 for more techniques.

The Neutrality Of The Law Of Attraction

We all know how powerful the Law of Attraction is and we’ve either seen, heard or had our own experiences of it in wonderful, positive ways. What I want to do here is give you an example of how NOT to use the Law of Attraction, and to show you in no uncertain terms, that the Universal Law of Attraction is completely neutral. From what I have read and heard from many people, it seems to me that the predominant thought is that the Law is “good” by nature, and that by using it, only “good” can come from it.

While you can indeed bring positive things, people, events, etc. into your life, you can also bring in disaster just as easily. In fact, even more easily, for we are all trained to be in fear and to believe the “worst” will happen, instead of focusing on the “best” happening.

The incident I’m about to relate happened to me, so I know whereof I speak. I also know all too well just how fast the Universe can respond! Whether it’s positive intention and vibes you are putting out or negative ones, the Universe does not care. It simply responds to the energy of your intention.

My first true experience of this type of intending was done in a very negative fashion. I had gone to the Star Trek convention at the Ambassador Hotel in Los Angeles. When I got there, I saw that the parking was $5! This was in 1985, and that was a lot of money to shell out just for parking! So, I got mad (read: afraid) and said screw that, I’ll park on the street. So I went around to the main street behind the hotel, parked my car, got out and popped 2 quarters into the meter. Just as I was about to turn the corner to go into the hotel parking lot and to the convention entrance, I said to myself (in full arrogant voice) “I dare anyone to break into my car! Grrr!@$%!!”

I then went and enjoyed myself at the convention. When I went back to my car two hours later to put in a couple more quarters, you guessed it, the car had been broken into, and everything stolen. I was stunned. I thought I had put up a protection around it, but no. That was an illusion. I had put my fear around it and instead of protecting it, I manifested getting robbed.

Needless to say, I learned my lesson right then and there! This is also when I realized the Universe is not picky about what it sends. It doesn’t choose, it merely reflects our energy back to us. The more intense the energy, the faster it reflects it back.

In the movie “The Secret”, Joe Vitale called the Law of Attraction a catalog that you placed your order with. Years ago, my friend Stuart Wilde said think of it as a great storehouse with everything in it, and it’s just waiting for your order. When he said “everything” he meant EVERYTHING! Everything and anything you can think of is availble to us. Any object, experience, person, all of it. Your choice. You decide, and it’s delivered.

Obviously, on that day, I had chosen to have the Universe show me what attracting fear and arrogance will get me. I lost my guitar and amplifier, a 24″ master recording tape my friends and I had just finished recording, (those were in the trunk) the car stereo, and everything out of the glove box. It was devastating at the time, and it took a couple days of introspection to sort it all out. Once I did, it felt even worse, because I knew that I had brought it about.

So you see, the Law of Attraction is completely neutral. “It” doesn’t care. “It” is simply our energy reflected back to us. If you put out positive energy, that is strongly intended, you’ll receive positive energy and very quickly. If you put out positive energy, but your intention is weak or wishy-washy, then you’ll get a weak result. You would not believe how fierce I was that day, internally shouting at the world. That is another lesson I learned. If you are powerful in your intent, it’ll show up quicker. You decide what you want and how quickly you want it.

Another thing to remember is that you have to be specific! The Law is neutral, and it doesn’t read minds. You have to tell it exactly what you want. Stuart used to say, “If you just say you want new shoes, you’ll end up with size 18 pink and yellow clown shoes with fuschia polkadots!” Remember, specific is terrific. Don’t be vague about what you want. Write it down, read it over, change it as needed, edit it so that it’s WHAT YOU WANT! Now, you can project that image with strong intent out into the energy of the universe, and it will respond.

The Universe and the Law of Attraction are neither “good” or “bad”. They simply are. In being neutral, they allow us to evolve as we decide. So, when things are not showing up as you want them to, look at the level of your intention. Look at the level of how specific you were in what you want. Do not berate yourself for it not happening as you first envisioned, but instead, forgive yourself and adjust your energy and vision accordingly. The more you do this, and do it from the same neutrality that the Universe shows us, the better you’ll get at it.

Deep Peace to you all,

“Tolemac”

“Deep Cleansing Breaths” Releasing Method

I thought this would be an appropriate day and time in our lives, and in our history, to share this particular method of release, seeing as we all have much to release and let go of, individually and as a people.

Today I am going to talk with you about a releasing method that is quick, easy and can be done practically anywhere. What are you going to release? Whatever you want to, basically. Definitely whatever no longer serves you. Only you can make that decision, so I’m going to keep it general in that department. This method can be done standing or seated, whichever is most comfortable for you, and either inside or outside. Whereever and whenever you can do this is good as long as you have about 2 to 5 minutes to yourself. Yes, it’s that quick. 😉

You begin by closing your eyes and as neutrally as possible, look at the emotion or situation you want to release. If you are sitting, sit with your arms on your legs, palms up. If you are standing, start with your arms loosely at your sides.

Now, breathe in deeply, easily and slowly through your nose. As you fill your lungs up with life giving air, say this Stuart Wilde affirmation to yourself:

“I am the power. I pull from within me the energy I need to go beyond my challenges.”

Visualize your inner energy rising up within you as you breathe in and say the affirmation. See it filling your entire being with positivity and light. At the top of the breath, hold it for just a moment, then again slowly and easily, let your breath out through your mouth and say my release affirmation to yourself:

“I now lovingly release and let go of (insert what you wish to release) cleanly and easily.”

As you let your breath out, see whatever it is that you are releasing as going down your grounding cord, all the way to the center of the Earth. At the bottom of the breath, hold it for just a moment and then begin the process again. Do this three times and then relax and breathe normally for a moment or two.

This is when I incorporate an EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tap to help your body release even deeper. With the first three fingers of your dominant hand and using the finger tips, tap what’s called the “karate chop” point (it’s on the outside of your hand, just below the last pinkie knuckle) on your other hand, while saying the following:

“Even though I’m feeling (insert how you feel about the situation, or whatever the emotion that you want to release), I deeply and completely love and forgive myself.”

Do this three times as well and continue to tap as you say it. You don’t need to tap fast, or hard; a steady rhythm works best. Once you’ve completed this three times, again, just relax and breathe easy. If you have the time and really want to let go, then do this whole process three times in one session. So that would be Breathing – Tapping – Breathing – Tapping – Breathing – Tapping.

The power of doing things three times is an ancient magical practice. One of the old magic sayings was “Thrice spoken, Once fulfilled”.

By using this releasing method, you are consciously letting go emotionally, mentally and physically of those things that no longer serve you or work for you at this time. I hope you find this method as easy to use as I do, and please let me know if you have any questions about it.

Brightest Blessings to you all on this historic day!

Ross – “Tolemac”